Hi, I am 15 years old and I just found out that when I was 3 years old my dad cheated on my mom. I found a tape where my mom, dad, and the "mistress" went on a talk show to talk about the cheating. I also found out that my dad got the mistress pregnant and I had no idea nor do I know if I have another sibling or not (the baby wasn't born then and I'm not sure if it was my dad's baby.) Now my Dad and Mom have been divorced since I was 4 and I live with my mom and see my dad every other weekend. I love my dad. I wanted to spend every minute with him. He was like superman to me. But I fell uncomfortable about this. My question is whether I should tell my mom that I know and ask her more about it or should I just forget about it. I'm so nervous to confront anyone and I fell really uncomfortable. What should I do? Just ask if anyone needs more details about it.
2007-01-12 06:13:05 · 10 answers · asked by Unknown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is no need to confront anyone about it.
This was an issue between your parents and it looks like it is fully resolved for them.
Your parents are the same people that they were last week so there is no need to let this affect you or your relationship with them.
You have to decide whether brutal honesty ("Mom, I saw the video) which can bring up old bad feelings best forgotten or keeping silent is best.
I suggest keeping quite for now and perhaps discussing it with your father when you turn 18. If knowing whether you have a sibling is important, wait until you turn 16 and talk to your father not your mother.
Good luck and keep loving your parents.
2007-01-12 06:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your dad first, because it seems like he initiated it. That is if you decide to open it up and find out if you have a half brother or sister somewhere. It sounds like your mother has put this behind her and gone on. I wouldn't upset your mother unless dad refuses to answer. Since you found the tape, you have a right to know. This is just one of the many reasons that pleasure seeking while married is wrong. Divorce is inevitable and the children suffer.
2007-01-12 06:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if you are female or male, so I would suggest that you speak with your same sex parent about their divorce...tell them what you found BEFORE you let them speak...that way they won't feel a need to lie to you to protect you. Once you have their story, consider asking the other about it as well.
You are obviously old enough to understand what happened, so getting the facts from your parents might help you understand what happened.
You are being mature about this, but relationships are scary things...and you are at point in your life where you need to understand 'adult relationships and your parents are good people to learn from.
Good luck.
2007-01-12 06:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Gotta Question 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is to leave it alone. by asking U might bring up some old hurt. Ur parents still love U the same. maybe when U are older U can mention this.
2007-01-12 06:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what u r going through but the most i can say is that you are big enough now and if this thing is making you uncomfortable speak to your PARENTS together about it. you will need to know if you have a sibling out there somewhere.
the most i can say is pray about it and discuss it with them rationally and dont tel them you know ask about it
2007-01-12 06:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by punky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR OLD enough to find the truth out. I just think you should ask them. People make mistakes, and I am sure you will be as loved as you were before you knew.
2007-01-12 06:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is between your parents. It is none of your business and it is old news. Stay out of it.
2007-01-12 06:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to your parents about it.
2007-01-12 06:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by jungfreudrogers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK WITH YOU MOM!!!! IT WILL BE OK!!! SHE HAS PROBABLY WAITED FOR THIS DAY TO COME AND BE OVER WITH!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-12 07:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it you cant talk to your parents then who can you talk to
2007-01-12 06:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋