He is very sweet but very needy. He definitely feels more for me than I do him. I know I should to the right thing and end it but I am afraid of how he will react and whether or not he will do anything stupid (like harm himself or something)
2007-01-12 06:09:36 · 39 answers · asked by Sasha R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
myanonymous, I doubt that I will wish this kind of needy long term. He needs constant reassurance that I love him and so on. Ad nauseam. It is getting to the point that I find I am resenting him and he doesn't deserve that.
2007-01-12 06:38:35 · update #1
It's highly unlikely he'll hurt himself, you hear that all the time but it rarely happens. In a long distance relationship, i'd either write him a long letter, explaining how you feel and that unfortunately, it's over, or do it over the phone. In person might be hard since you said he is so needy, it might get really ugly and uncomfortable if you're together when you end it. After it's over, don't accept any calls or emails from him, you both need to move on and clear your head.
2007-01-12 06:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by DEENIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships almost never work out because usually someone gets more attached than the other. You just need to open to up him and tell him the truth. If he threatens to harm himself, call his parents and inform him that you dont want anything to happen to him and that you are very sorry. The worse thing you could do is lead him on...so just tell him the truth. He might be a bit mad at first but he will get over it.
2007-01-12 06:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The needy thing is unattractive at first glance i agree, but if you are looking for someone for marriage down the line, in 20 years you will be craving that "needyness" from your husband. I recomend you be honest with him, only if he is worth it of course, and consider his other character traits. People who tend to see others as needy only have a very short view of the future. There are exceptions.
If you decide he truly isn't worth it then be completely honest because there is nothing worse then waiting on it for the both of you.
2007-01-12 06:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by myanonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel, be honest with him or your just wasting his and your time. How he reacts really isn't your problem. YOUR problem will be wasting the rest of your life unhappy because you felt sorry for a guy and couldn't tell him the truth. Be honest, he'll probably appreciate it and it won't go any further so that his feelings grow deeper. Good Luck
2007-01-12 06:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by Amber S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel he may harm himself u may need to let someone from his family know this (if u know any of them). If u don't know this person from meeting him face to face then it depends on how much info u have given him. You need to be very careful about that sort of thing. I don't know how old u are but please in the future meet someone nearer to home!! Sounds like u r smarter than this so please just be honest with him and tell him that u don't feel like u can go on talking to him and change your phone number or even your email address. And like i said u need to be careful in the future.
2007-01-12 06:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by shabo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as hard as it will be, consider the alternatives: You (and he) would be stuck together indefinitely, based solely on your desire not to hurt him. The fact is, that would likely be more harmful to you both than simply ending it (which isn't quite that simply, anyway).
I think you'll find the words. Be honest; be patient, if you can, but be determined.
Good luck -- to you both.
2007-01-12 06:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by oaxaca_so_long 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe meet up with him and end it, or over the phone is another option. I doubt he would harm himself unless you did the breaking up in the worst possible way. If he does then it's not your fault.
2007-01-12 06:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he cant use taht on you that he is going to harm himself becasue the is manipulative...and u cant go on because I dated a guy who never really liked me and he tells me this afte 2 months that he kinnda just dated me to date me...so therefore its like everything was fake...so u dont want him to feel that also....So its actually easier its long distance because atleast you have to keep seeing him after the break up..if u still want to " be friends" then just email..and talk every once in a while if he isnt too hurt
2007-01-12 06:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that the LDR thing isn't working for you. That you have met someone in your same area and want to pursue a relationship with them. And ok... is he really going to harm himself?? If so, tell him when he has a friend over so that he has someone to talk to after the convo.
2007-01-12 06:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel and don't feel responsible for his actions. Him doing stupid things is probably only to get your attention so don't feed to his game. Plus the more you get into the relationship the more it'll hurt. Good luck.
2007-01-12 06:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by MichiganRocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋