I'm so much in love with this guy no one in my family likes him coz of his background.He has just asked me to marry him and i said yes coz he means the wolrd to me,he also knows how my family feels about him but really he doesn't mind he does everything for me he even waited for me to finish high school before being intimate help before i die
2007-01-12 06:08:07 · 11 answers · asked by beautifull 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can TOTALLY sympathize. I've been with my b/f for 3 years, and before that, he dated one of my friends. During that time, he did a lot of things that weren't "good", and my parents heard all about it. Imagine their surprise, disappointment, and anger when they found out we were together!! I got "talked to" and "counseled" all the time about how I was making poor decisions, but he was special to me in a way no one else could understand, and nor did I expect them to. But I stuck to my guns and did what I wanted to do, because ultimately, you need to make YOURSELF happy, not everyone else. Three years later, my parents have come to accept my decision and don't say anything to me anymore. Your parents just need to get used to the idea of you guys together, and it may take a long time. However, in my opinion, you should stay strong because only YOU know what you really want! You must brace yourself for more heartache and hard time with your family, but only do that if you KNOW in your heart that HE is worth all of it. :)
2007-01-12 06:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by phimu1223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your family will always be your family. They will love you no matter what. They may talk about you, and disapprove of your relationship, but they are like your body parts; you won;t be able to function wholly without them. Now, about your fiance, he must not try to prove himself in any way to anyone. He will only grow bitter in the long run, and that bitterness will then be associated with you. In this case, love him. Once your family realizes that your love for one another is genuine, they will grow to love him as well. It might not happen over night, but progressively, if your emotions are strong, everyone around you will be affected by your love. Keep your head up. Do not be angry with your family, they love you and your fiance loves you too. Therefore, it is inevitable that love will join love. Good Luck!
2007-01-12 14:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Annette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had that problem and believe me if your family doesn't like him or think he's the one for you for reasons other than race, then they will put too much strain on the relationship and you will feel worn out because of the pressure to get rid of him. On top of that , when he does mess up, your family will be able to say "i told you so" and throw it in your face for years to come. Really think about why your family won't accept him. They probably foresee disaster.
2007-01-12 14:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by ladylove79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give your family's intuition some consideration. There is probably a reason they don't like him. Not just his past, but something in his current demeanor and way of dealing with people they don't trust.
Ultimately, the decision is yours, as are the consequences of making the wrong decision.
2007-01-12 14:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by Steve H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st make sure you understand the reason your family may not like him.
2nd, using your own judgement and maybe get other input decide if that reason is good or B.S.
3rd Be prepared to live with whatever decision you make in step 2.
2007-01-12 14:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray. Becuase neither boyfriend or family are thinking rationally right now,..they both want to save you from the other.
the praying if taken seriously, will give you the deciding answer,...good luck.
2007-01-12 14:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love him that's all that matters. you can get married. i'm sure that your family knows how much you love him.. and since they do, they'll probably try to tolerate him for you.
i don't think you should throw that kind of love away
2007-01-12 14:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with homo sexuality
I am bisexual we shoulld get together some time
bye babeeee
2007-01-12 14:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by lulu b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are of age (18)or above, do what would make you happy. i had trouble with my girls family where they didnt accept me. and now they do.
2007-01-12 14:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you chose him over your family. hopefully they'll forgive you after he's done with you, and not say i told you so too much...
2007-01-12 14:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋