One of our family members was turning 75 years old. I planned a surprise dinner party at a restaurant for 25+ guests. Some guests were flying in from out of state.It was a BIG deal.
Everything was planned, had been confirmed and paid for. From the beginning we stated it was a SURPRISE party to honor a man we love. EVERYONE knew it was a SURPRISE party. There was no confusion about it being a surprise.
My sister-in-law took it upon herself to ruin the surprise. She told the Birthday Boy a week before his party about people coming from out of town.Then she claimed she had made all the arrangments, and tried to change the venue to her own home!
It's not like she has a reputation for doing this. Nobody expected her to do it. We're all stunned. She is now angry at us which is even more confusing.
What do we say to her? Ruining a mans 75th Birthday? There's no question that she KNEW it was a suprise. She knew it for a year.
What do you say to someone like that?
2007-01-12 05:54:28 · 8 answers · asked by wwhrd 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She agreed to the arrangements, accepted the invitation, and was going to be a guest at the event. She wanted nothing to do with planning, didn't pay for a thing, never helped with one detail and then sabotaged the event.
Is she rude or evil?
2007-01-12 06:23:45 · update #1
After you kick her butt? First of all, ask her WHY she did it. In a non-threatening sort of way, repeat to her everything you just told us. Then ask her if she was confused about the whole thing (doubtful), thought surprising a man of that age could be fatal (possibly), or she just happens to be a surprise-ruining, glory-hogging nut. Make sure you tell her how it made everyone feel then do one of the hardest things-let it go for your own sake.
2007-01-12 06:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Pam C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ruining the surprise does not mean she ruined the birthday. Maybe she knew he would not like the surprise from a personal conversation she had with the honoree. Maybe she had a negative experience herself. The fact is family and friends came together to celebrate someone's 75th birthday. One minute of surprise is not enough to get into a huge row with your sister in law. Sister in laws are odd sometimes, but no need to stress out your brother over it. Let it go.
2007-01-12 06:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Kiss my foot, seems a bit mild. Tell her to grow up, if she wants to plan a party she needs to take the lead early and inform the others what she is doing. I hope he had a good party anyway. And I would leave her out of future parties, just dont invite her for a while, and she will get the message.
2007-01-12 06:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i be responsive to that's previous due, yet I study this 5 years in the past and alter into questioning approximately it ever considering. actual.. that's a lie.. merely study this now. the appropriate element to do is to nonetheless have the occasion. Have her come abode, yet don't have anybody marvel her today.. have every physique wait 10 or 20 minutes. Then call her up announcing she choose her to %. you up now.. or some thing is out interior the front backyard. As she approximately to bypass away the abode, every physique would desire to be exterior interior the front backyard.. screaming at her.. marvel.
2016-10-19 21:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just curious, how is she your sister in law? married to bro or husbands sis? have you said anything to your bro/husband? whats their take on this?
sounds like she's playing the hate game. the only way to figure it out is to have it out with her. its not going to change what happened but you'll feel better and it will clear the air.
2007-01-12 09:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out back and beat her!
2007-01-12 06:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
all you can say is YOU BI#CH!!!
2007-01-12 06:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that dirty scoundrel......How dare she.......
2007-01-12 05:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋