Ill try to keep this short. When my fiancee and I met, we had a great connection and chatted for hours, a few times told me about a female friend that was close to him but he wasnt interested in her. We became a couple a few months later and everything was perfect, till one day I discovered that this "friend" was his sex buddie at the time we met, and he broke up with her when started the relationship with me but remained friends. I asked him why he didnt tell me before (instead of finding out by someone else) and he told me he was afraid of losing me. He told me he didnt trust her much anyway, that it meant nothing it was just sex and she was just way to immature. He promised me he was going to finish any type of relationship he had with her for the good being of ours. I havent heard from her, he deleted her from his contacts on msn (not from his cellphone), and although I know he is being honest I still have my doubts about his honesty and all the girls in his past!!
2007-01-12 05:51:55 · 6 answers · asked by luisa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This girl is in the past. It should say something to you that he chose to be wih you when all he had with her was a sex thing. It's wrong for people to assume that he was doing something wrong to this girl either. They might have had an arrangement they were happy with. Admittedly he should have told you maybe but people always hide little things like that when they first meet. Also you say you "met" but does that mean you were dating from that point or were you friends first? If you keep someones number on your cell it means you can see if they are calling you. If he doesn't want to speak to her it would prob be a good idea to know that it's her calling yes? Sometimes you just have to trust the person you love and if they betray you, deal with them then. Don't pre-emptively judge them based on what they could be doing. Your guy is probably crazy about you and is happy he has found the right girl at last. Talk to him. If you can't communicate together alone then should you be getting married?
DD
2007-01-13 00:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he had sex with a girl he didn't care about (user), lied to you rather than admit his own actions (liar and coward), claimed this woman he was screwing was too immature (blamer), and is trying to tell you he's not in contact, but kept her phone number (liar).. and now you "know he's being honest"??
Is this the best you can do in a husband? Is this really the type of man you want to pledge the rest of your life to? If you still think so, please get premarital counseling.
You're not being paranoid--- you're actually using your head, rather than denying everything "because I love him".
2007-01-12 05:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun, if he hasn't remvd her from the cell, he ain't done. Also sounds like he is the immature one.
2007-01-12 06:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's not being honest with you. U should talk to him sincerely to find out what else he ight be hiding...Damn men...
2007-01-12 05:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-01-12 05:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their girls from his PAST so what does it really matter now, leave it alone :) :) :)
2007-01-12 06:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋