If you were to put your child up for adoption or if you have would you...?

Question

…or did you sign the consent to release identifying information to the child once he is older and curious?

If not, why? Or why wouldn't you? Or why did you? Or why would you?

Answer 1

I would make sure my child had all the information he/she would need about family history. I would also make sure the agency who did the adoption had all my current information. If I had a child whom I thought would be better off being raised by someone other than me I would prefer an open adoption. And I would want to pick the parents.

Answer 2

I would sign the consent. how bogus would it be to grow up and all of a sudden find out u were adopted and cant find out a thing!

If i adopted a child I would let them know as soon as possible that they were adopted and share any info I knew about their parents.. no secret type rule

If i were the person giving up the child it would be hard but I would want the child to be able to get in touch with me.. it would be really hard and I cant imagine doing something as such but I understand there are people that make that choice and it is the best for them.. And I am so much happier that they didnt abort.. This is a tough subject

Answer 3

I think that if I ever put my child up for adoption, I would definately sign the consent to release identifying information. This could be a serious matter. IF I gave up a child it would be to better his/her life, and if there was something wrong in the future that was hereditary, I would feel like it is my obligation to provide him/her with as much information as possible to help him/her fight whatever they were facing. Also, if the child were to get curious about his biological parents, I would love to know what the child turned out like and what he/she was interested in, etc.
That little bit of information could turn out to be lifesaving! You never know!

Answer 4

I really don't know...I think I probably would because of medical reasons. But a lot of the time children come looking for birth parents for other reasons.

5 years ago, my sister, brother and myself were informed that we might have a 1/2 brother. After DNA tests confirmed it, we met and formed a bond with our 'new' brother. After meeting him, we learned alot about his search for his birth parents. His birth mother was found first, and totally rejected him. She went so far as to write him a letter and telling him that he was a bastard and she wanted nothing do to with him. Needless to say, he was devastated and put off finding dad for a couple of years. His wife finally continued the search and found our dad. My dad didn't even knew he existed, but we welcomed him with open arms, as difficult as it was for all of us (especially our mom), we also knew it wasn't so easy for him, either. We have a relationship with him and his family and get together several times a year and talk regularly. My parents even have a picture of us 4 kids on thier mantel.

A majority of the time, if an adopted child wants to find their birth parents, they're going to do it...weather they have written consent to the info or not. Why not release the info to begin with. Most of the time, they're just curious and there isn't much of a relationship after the initial meeting. Honestly, it's a matter of personal choice, but if you're going to give a child up for adoption, don't be suprised if you're contacted one day.

I think adoption is a great thing and if I was in a postion, pregnant with no help, etc and unable to raise my child, I would consider adoption in a heartbeat. It's a fantastic way to give a child a better life and make a childless couple very happy.

Answer 5

well i found out 3 days ago i am going to be a father. right now i can safely say im not ready to be a father. but the thought of missing out on my childs life would be the most glaring regret of my life. my uncle came here yesterday and was telling adoption is an answer. but i think with my child being mixed not too many people would be interested in adopting a bi-racial child and subsequently he or she could be a ward of the state until 18. so despite how deficient my life me be now i want to raise my little one the best i know how.

Answer 6

If I were a woman and I had a child, I wouldn't put him/her up for adoption. At the core, a baby is still your child, and a part of YOU. The only reason I would do so would be if it was in the best interest of the child, not for me, and so if I would not love him/her or if I wouldn't be able to bring it up well, then and then only would I consider giving a child for adoption.

Answer 7

I am putting the child i am pregnant with up for adoption next month when i deliver, i did agree to let them release the information when she is 18.

Answer 8

As an adoptive parent (thank you to all your brave and courageous birth parents!!!), it was great to have contact with our birthmother before the birth of our daughter. My daughter knows she is adopted and we send our birthmother letters about once a year. It may be too much contact for some birthmothers, but it is important for my daughter (and us) to know she was placed in love. And in the future, she hopefully will not have so many questions about who she is.

Answer 9

as the mother of an adopted child (and bless you birthmother's who are so couragous) i am happy we were in contact with the birthmother before and after the birth. my daughter will know she's adopted and was out of love. she will have a link to her genetics and know her birthmother. we decided it was in our child's best interest to know her whole life story from the very beggining so there wouldn't be any unanswered questions waiting to be told later on.

Answer 10

absolutely. if i give my child the freedom to have a better life than i can provide, then i would also give them the freedom to contact me if he/she had any questions or needed to know why i made that choice.