My mother ( and my 40 year old not working in ten years brother) after my mother's house burned down. I am realizing just how mean and evil she is. If I say up, she says dow. She is also deliberately hurtful. I want her out but I can't put her out. She then says that I will be punished for disrespecting my mother. Isn't respect mutual? Any advice?
2007-01-12 05:45:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok here r some advice for u:
2007-01-12 05:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Erik W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to put an IMMEDIATE end to this HARRASSMENT. That is exactly what you are allowing her to do. Ever heard of tough love? You need to set bounderies and rules and make it perfectly clear that this is your home, your life and if they cannot abide bt your rules, OUT THEY GO. Do not let them guilt you into anything because they most certainly will try. Remember, no matter how much you do for them, it will never be enough and you will always be the "bad guy". Take some peace of mind for yourself-set down rules and consequences. Give them a definite date that they must both be out.
2007-01-12 06:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Pam C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be nice if respect was mutual. What you are finding out is how people can be vicious or how people try to take advantage of others. This is also a test. Your mother is testing you to see how far she can push you. As long as you cannot put her out, she will continue to push you. You did not say why you 'can't' put her out. But if you are determined to draw the line in the sand, you will find a way.
2007-01-12 05:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your house and they are taking advantage of you. Tell them both they have 30 days and not a day more to get out. If they give you any trouble after that call the cops and have them escorted off your property. Do not let your kindness in helping someone out ruin your life.
2007-01-12 06:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Dear,
I feel your pain, sometimes Moms don't know how to deal with there adult child .They like to control us as if we were 15yrs. I feel that your mom certainly needs to respect you as an adult. Try talking to her in a nice way, let her know you love her and respect her, but she has got to stop treating you like a child. Yes,it's going to be hard to do, and yes, she may get mad.If you don't talk to her you may end up hating each other! So speak up you would be surprised at the difference it will make.If nothing else she might began to search for other living arrangement a bit sooner.
2007-01-12 06:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by babybuds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She and your brother need to find someplace else to live. She sounds very manipulative and abusive.
You have no reason to feel guilty either. She is the one disrespecting you--you are a responsible adult with your own home--maybe she is jealous.
Good luck!
2007-01-12 05:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by fab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your house? Why can't you put her out. I'd give her and your bother 30 days to find other accomodations. You're an adult, and shouldn't have to be treated like that.
2007-01-12 05:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your mother and raised you but it's your home. She needs to respect you just as I'm assuming you respected her while growing up.
2007-01-12 06:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋