I'm engaged. My fiance has 4 children, and I have one. Do I have a right to be upset if he still says that he's single?
2007-01-12 05:39:13 · 40 answers · asked by Katie N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Technically, he is right. Ethically,,however, he should quickly follow any statements that he is single by, "but I am engaged to be married to a beautiful woman" and then smile.
What you neglected to state is the circumstances that this comes up like tax forms or online dating sites? Situations like tax forms, need to be "technically" correct. Online dating sites or websites, should be "ethically" correct and if not then an open discussion of intent needs to be resolved and understood clearly because it is not fair to any party, be it you or other people who may be mislead by misleading information.
Best to communicate in a direct honest calm discussion to understand from him why he chooses "single". Always best to seek understanding first before you seek to be understood.
This is just my humble opinion. Best Wishes.
2007-01-12 05:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by satinwine2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends.... is he using single as in like when they ask you on an application or something if your single or married? Because in that case, he would still be single... but other than that, if your engaged he should not be using single as his status... because he is not supposed to be looking ... and that is what you would say if your were looking and dating... Maybe you should sit him down and explain. How would he feel if you were telling people that you were a single woman? Sometimes its best to ask him how it would be if it were the other way around... Good luck!!
2007-01-12 06:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by MandiGurl M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who he is saying it too. If you are engaged you should be able to talk to him about it. Technically he is single because he's not married. Guys don't typically walk around and say they are "engaged" or use the word "fiance" so I wouldn't make too much of it. If he's telling other women he's single- you've got a problem.
2007-01-12 05:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by justjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your definition of "single" means "not dating anyone," then yes you do have a right to be upset if he's your fiance. If his definition of "single" means "not married," then he will never understand why you are upset, because according to his definition he is indeed single.
If you two are fighting over such a mindless point, I would serious give it a lot of thought and time before turning "fiance" into "husband." Perhaps he needs to stay single after all.
2007-01-12 05:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rvn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In terms of checking off a box on a survey, he is single right now, but if someone is asking him he is not single! He is in a commited relationship and I would be upset if he said he was single.
What does your children have to do with it?
2007-01-12 05:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse you have every right to be upset...If you're engaged...Your partner should not be acting like he's single or even saying it if that...I would get that straight with him before you even go through with the marriage...If you stay quiet about that he'll just keep doing it...
2007-01-12 05:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by $&$& 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, he's single. In everyday life, he's preparing to spend the rest of his life with you, so when he's having normal conversations he should never say the word "single" to describe his relationship status.
If this is the case, you have every right to be upset.
2007-01-12 06:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both single until you are married! But, he is engaged and so are you. And he should be acting accordingly.
However, if he ACTS like he's single when he isn't with you, and doesn't acknowledge that he's engaged, then you do have problems.
2007-01-12 20:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell? Perhaps he doesn't understand the meaning of 'fiance'. He's not single, and perhaps you should remind him of that (or rethink your position).
Proposing, or getting engaged is just that - it's a referendum to your relationship that you've committed yourself to *one* person. By even implying he's single means he's not taking that committment (or not understanding that committment) seriously.
2007-01-12 05:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Prakash V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment he entered a monogamous relationship with you (provided you are the only one he is seeing and he is the only one you are seeing - or you are in an "open" relationship) is when his single status vanished. I would communicate your feelings with him, and make decisions from there. After all, I would not want my fiancee going around telling other women that he is single.
2007-01-12 07:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by babeegirl257 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋