He told my friend that he liked me alot but he doesn't get it when I say that I don't like him. He has had a crush on me since we started middle school and right now i am in high school. HELP ME PLZ!!!!!!
2007-01-12 05:37:10 · 21 answers · asked by chica loca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you want to do him a huge favor, tell him, I'm sorry but I don't find you attractive. I would say we could still be friends, but I know that's not what you're looking for so I won't.
Add: I'm sorry if you feel I led you on in anyway making it seem there were feelings between us that weren't there. It certainly wasn't my intention, but now I feel the need to set the record straight.
Btw, he will be hurt, no away around that. You could say the sweetest thing ever about you being a bad person and him being too good or whatever, and even if he doesn't see through that one of his friends will and tell him the real deal.
You obviously care about this guy at least somewhat, so the best way is to let him down cleanly, and maybe he won't be taken in by bogus reasons in the future, which cause many of us geekier guys to do dumb things when we don't understand the real reason.
2007-01-12 05:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by JDJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already told him that you don't like him and he is still crushing on you, then you owe him nothing more. If he is important to you, you could tell him (face to face and not through the grapevine) that his persistence is making you uncomfortable and therefore jeopardizing your friendship. He might have an emotional response, but if he is a real friend, after settling down; he will modify his behavior and become a more distant friend instead of risk loosing your friendship all together. If he doesn't change, then you should not be mean, but do not have interaction with him either. You be the one to let go and let go of him.
2007-01-12 13:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by thintowinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, "I'm not attracted to you like that and never could be. I want to keep being your friend, but I don;t want to lead you on or make you think there may be a chance in the future. If you want me for a friend I'll be here, but thats all I can be to you." dating someone else probably won;t work, because chances are you've been with other people. This may hurt his feelings and you may even lose him as a friend, but it is the kindest thing you can do for him.
2007-01-12 13:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by jmtutin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to keep your distance. Don't treat him badly but don't hang out with him so much or talk on the phone so much or whatever you guys do together...just cut way back on it. I had the same issue in high school and I've been able to remain friends with this guy because i always kept my distance and chose to date other guys.
2007-01-12 13:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem; only the one you seem to think exists.
You said you do not like him. What is there for him to get? Crushes pass and people grow up. It is time for him to do so and you to stop feeling sorry for him.
Hurt his feelings. He's not accepting the truth. Hurt his feelings!
2007-01-12 13:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by SANCHA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not possible to just ignore him, then you have to tell him to his FACE that you don't feel the same way about him and to please leave you alone. If he doesn't stop, you should tell a teacher or your parent because he could start harrassing you or worse.
Please be carefuly, but be firm and kind to him and just let him know that you will not be changing your mind and you hope he finds someone nice.
Good luck!
2007-01-12 13:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is when are you going to stand up for yourself and for what's right? When are you going to face him and tell him the truth? Why lead him on by refusing to be straightforward and direct?
Sooner or later you're going to have to grow up and treat both yourself - and others - with the dignity and respect of honesty.
2007-01-12 13:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being his friend, or he will forever hope you might love him. If you continue to be his friend, you will hurt his feelings more than anything else you can do. Trust me. Don't be stupid about ignoring him, but don't encourage any interaction between the two of you. Only option.
2007-01-12 13:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Nom De Guerre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that youve known him too long and you like him as a friend...but nothing more...and thats a good thing..tell him that you are afraid of dating because if you two were ever to date then break up you wouldnt want to ruin the relationship///
2007-01-12 13:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~Ohio State~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fake having a boyfriend! Get some guy you know to pretend he is your boyfriend and then the other guy will see this and bye bye
he goes!
2007-01-12 13:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋