My 3.5 yr old refuses to potty train. Is 3daypotty training for real?

Question

we are desperate...

Answer 1

If I don't miss my guess your child is intelligent and opinionated and it makes no sense that he/she CAN'T potty train, he/she simply doesn't want to. The smarter a kid is, the harder it is to get them to do stuff your way. My son did the same thing. It wasn't from a lack of discipline although I heard that a lot, nor was it from some deep-seated psychological issue, heard that a lot too. Most kids are using the potty by 3.5 but my son was nearly 4. I tried everything: stickers, toys, I even resorted to M&M's. I tried subtly implying that only baby's wear diapers (I didn't want to cause self-esteem problems). We even told him that he could get a new big-boy bike and a new big-boy backpack if he used the potty. He completely potty-trained himself and after two weeks, he got the bike and the backpack and proceeded to wet himself. After all that, my nerves were shot and I was fairly convinced that he had some issues and I knew that I had some issues, he just decided one day that he was done with it all and could use the potty. I did not know whether to throw a party or to throttle him for making me crazy, I decided on a special trip to Space Aliens and some extra quarters for the arcade (he doesn't do very well but he sure likes the games).
I don't know what you have tried, I would wager everything, but at this point I would suggest buying tons of undies and a Kirby vacuum cleaner with a carpet shampooer and not say a word about the potty but make the little bandit clean up. I do hope that your little one just decides to get on with it as mine did.
Try to have faith in the knowledge that your little one will not wet his/her pants at 8, 10, 15, 35. This is just temporary, this too shall pass.

Answer 2

Why is your daughter "refusing" to potty train! Take Control!
I don't know about the 3daypotty thing at all but her are a couple of suggestions.

If you are a stay-at-home mom, watch the clock and make her sit on the potty every half-hour to an hour. Wait a few minutes. If she goes potty make a big deal out of it.

Because of her age I'm going to tell you a suggestion I heard but am not 100% comfortable with. Put her in panties. Let her have an accident. Make her help you clean up the mess.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

My son turned 3 in november and I thought that I would never get him potty trained. I offered stickers, rewards anything that might convince him to use the potty. Then while over christmas i just put underwear on him (except for at night) and let him have his accidents, he walked around for 2 weeks having accidents everyday but I told him that he was not getting his diapers back, He did cry to a point but I told him strictly that he was a big boy not a baby. What finally got him is that I bought a piggy bank at walmart, its made by Rose Art. It was under four dollars but it has paint with it and I let him paint his own piggy bank and I told him that I would give him a quarter every time he pooped in the potty. It really worked and now he uses the potty. He gets really excited to get his own money and at the end of the week I take him to the store to buy his own toy.
He uses a potty chair that sits over the toilet, and I buy the Kandoo toilet wipes, he loves the frog on the box.

Answer 4

I would get a book on how to potty train. There are several techniques that use a reward system. I've known some 3 years olds that aren't potty trained yet. I've always been told that if a child isn't ready developmentally, you shouldn't force them.

I've been trying to potty train my girl for over a year now. Of course she is developmentally delayed and is 6 years old now, so count your blessings and hope that he/she will learn quick. Sometimes it is a slow process. You cannot rush these kinds of things no matter how bad you want to.

Answer 5

At this point i'm sure you've at least introduced the potty to your child.. I thought my son would never want to do it.. Right b/f he turned 3 my husband and I got sick of changing him.. Way to big for that, and we stopped buying diapers.. We bought him real underwear and in 2 days he was peeing in the potty.. (standing up).. I didn't use the potty seat. We bought the seat that goes over our potty.. that worked out better for him.. Pooping took a couple more days, but it was amazing to me how quickly he learned. I would sit him on there right after he woke up and every 30 min after that.. Trust me, he didn't want to , but once he did it and I made a huge deal, he understood.. Good luck to you....

Answer 6

I don't believe the 3 day potty training nonsense.

If your seriously ready to say goodbye to changing diapers, don't buy anymore. It will be tough, and some days you'll want to pull your hair out, but it worked for me. Take him to walmart and let him pick out some underwear (spiderman, thomas...etc). This is what he can wear during the day. You can buy pullups if you want to and put his underwear up under his pull up so he knows how it feels to be wet, and his clothes will stay dry. Either way you do it, he'll eventually hate this feeling and try out the potty. Everytime you change his undies, mention how yucky it must feel to be wet.
Positive reinforcement worked for us. We gave my duaghter a sticker everytime she sat on the potty and a skittle everytime she pee peed. I have friends who make "potty boxes" for their kids. Whenever they use the potty, they get a prize from the "potty box". (just a decorated shoe box with small candy, stickers, and dollar tree toys)
Hope this Helps

Answer 7

My kid was late potty training also....and there were many fusses over the whole deal. However, we got to the point where we didn't even bother, and then one day, my kid decided to use it and never had a problem since.

I think kids will do it when they are ready (but parents like to jump in and take the credit).

Answer 8

I potty trained my son at 2 years old. All I did was sit him on the toilet topper for kids in training everymorning after he woke up, before his nap, after his nap, and before he went to bed at night. Now you have to be consistent. Children respond better to stable enviroments where the same things pretty much happen everyday. It provides security for them. Be patent and remember all kids develop differently. He will eventually be potty trained. Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

It is possible but it's time consuming and difficult. get the underwear that is thick cotton leave them on him. bring him to the potty every 15 Min's. Don't ask hes going to say he doesn't have to go. make him sit on the potty for like 4 mins and reward reward reward by the 3rd day your going to be exhausted between that and cleaning the rugs.

Answer 10

some kids just aren't ready, they'll come around when they are ready. Don't be too pushy or he/she won't want to potty train at all. my 3yr old just started and man is it a task just to get him to go pee. if you areally that desperate to potty him now then take him into the bathroom with you everytime you go and show him/her your business and talk to your child in a way that encourages him/her to go.
Good Luck!!