How to deal with people who make fun of you all the time?

Question

I know someone in my in-laws who likes to make fun of me( I don't know why?) whenever I visit them. I am a nice person and very kind hearted and I am always nice( and people say I am "attractive too:) but I do not care about it I believe that one's inner beauty is more important than outer beuty) with others because my parents never tought me to be rude, blunt,disrespectful with other,this is how I raised. My in-laws like to critisize me and they are very blunt and they do not respect me at allbut in return I am always nice with them and polite but they do not care about it. They are very mean with others too including me. How can I deal with these people? Should I ignore them completely?( I tried and I don't say much in reply may be that is why they take the advantage of that) Please advice me not being rude ( I can't be though because I am a dofferent person) how can I deal with them?and why do they make fun of me,what do u think?

Answer 1

well, i think you should ignore than if they are making you fell sad, i'm like you sometimes. i try to help,and be coll with people but they don't give me any value, if you ignore than and even this way they don't stop doing it, tell them you wanna have a conversation and tell them you fell bad whwn they make fun of you all the time,ok


i hope i had help you.

Answer 2

I'm curious about what your spouse does in this situation.

Have you talked to your spouse and said how you feel when you are over at your in-laws? Are they really being mean or is just that they are loud talkers and just plainly talk that way?

You do seem very soft-spoken so I take it any kind of verbal communication that goes against your nature can come out harshly. I am the same way and I've had tons of frustrating talks with my husband about his family. I'm finally able to say I can see his family is just the type of family that talk bluntly and straightforward.

Practice saying a phrase to get them to respond to your feelings...

Like:

"Let's not talk about me at this time." Practice by looking in the mirror, watch your facial expressions, try to mimick someone in that family and match the tone in your voice. If that helps.

Talk to your spouse above all. Your spouse should have a talk with the family if there's a problem and should stand up for you whenever there's a discussion that makes you uncomfortable.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Those kind of people are rude because they have issues within themselves, not with the people they attack. I am sorry that you have to be in their line of fire. Have you spoke with your husband about how it makes you feel? Maybe you could get his reinforcement, since they are his family. I would suggest also limiting visiting with them. If you aren't around them, they will not have the chance to insult you. And you know, you can be assertive without being rude...most of the time people will only treat you as bad as you allow them to. We really do teach people how to treat us. Simply leaving when the insulting starts is an act that tells them you aren't going to just sit there and listen to them anymore. It is still a bit passive but more assertive than just sitting there letting them rip you a new one. Becoming assertive will not change that you are a nice, good hearted person.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 5

OK so next time they are rude to you, say something. Just say "I dont think thats funny" or "that hurts my feelings". If they dont change then I hate to tell you but you will have to toughen up and fight fire with fire. It is fine that u weren't raised like that, but listen.... if your parents knew that people were always rude to you (your in-laws no less!!) they would say stick up for yourself. Otherwise you are just letting htem walk on you. Try to figure out their humor... are they just fuill out rude or are they witty, but occasionally harsh?? They try to emmulate their humor. You can make snide remarks that come across as humorous. Maybe they don't realize that that is what they do to you, so they think its funny... anyways tossing back what they dish out will either show them how they act and how it feels, or it will get them to at least respect you a little more bc you are standing up for yourself. Also, where the hell is your spouse in this- s/he should ALREADY be saying something to his fam about how they treat you. If you aren't gona stand up to his family, he should at least do it for you.

Answer 6

i know exactly how you feel.. i have 2 brothers in law that used to do th e same..in order to go their home i had to make sure that my skin was thick so that i wont take their coments to heart.. i i think that people that do that are very weak or feel inferior and make themselves feel good when insulting others.. they are bullies .. i have stood up to them in a joking way a couple of times and have learned to respect me a little by doing so. i have also stayed away.. i generally try to sorround myself with positive people.. people that dont take from me ..people who genuinely care.. i use my caller i.d all the time them.. they will get the point..ignoring them is the best i did...i dont visit that much..i dont call that much,,why put myself thru that.

Answer 7

because i'm haven't witnessed the occassion i'm not sure whether they are doing this in jest or are really being mean about it. i would say give it right back to them if its more about jest but if its just to be mean don't stoop to their level. have confidence that you are the better person by keeping calm and just letting their comments roll off your back. the way i've delt with it in the past has been to just keep totally calm and pretend you don't care. even walking away in the middle of them critizing you should get the point across to them that you really don't give a flying crap about anything they say. the hope is eventually they'll get bored of never getting a rise out of you and just stop. be warned though...it could take awhile.

Answer 8

You need to set them straight. I had this same problem with my in-laws. I had taken so much crap from them the name calling, and rude jesters that I put my foot down and said enough is enough. I let them knew w how I felt and that I didn't appreciate the way that they treated me. The abuse eventually stopped and my husband was free to breath again.

Answer 9

That might just be their way of dealing with other people. They didn't learn any better. It's best to turn the other cheek. Ignore it, laugh about it even, and try to understand that it's the only way they know how to interact with you and other people. Try to see them less often though.

Answer 10

Confidance is key! if your confident with yourself they will not be able to make fun of you. and with you it sounds like it's true.

They reason they make fun of you is prolly because of their own insecuritys!!!!

hold your head high gorgous, there are people who would kill to see you fall!!!