I have been hooking up with this guy for 7 months now...he doesnt want a boy friend but I have come to have more feelings for him lately. He told me some story about him asking htis girl to lunch and didn't react much. Is it ok for me to ask what his intention with this girl are? or would that be crossing the line considering he things we're just hook up buddies?
2007-01-12 05:25:47 · 29 answers · asked by Sam s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That depends, if you want a more stable and exclusive relationship then you need to find out where you stand with this guy and the question would not be unreasonable. If you're just happy with the present situation then it really doesn't matter who this person is anyway.
2007-01-12 05:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I guess this would all depend on what you really want from him.Are you worried about him moving on with another? Do you feel more for him then just "hook up friends"? If so, than no, Its not like you really have to ask 50 questions, just let him know that even though you are just messing around together that you don't want to take any risks of him having multiple partners cause its kinda gross.But if you have feelings for him and he don't than maybe you need to get a grip on those feelings before you get too far.He may feel the same as you do and is just testing you for reaction.Only one way to find out.Bite the bullet and express and if he freaks out and wants to end it,than at least you didn't let it get to far then get hurt.
2007-01-12 05:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what his answer is going to be....he'll say "Well you and i arent in a relationship..." I can tell you the guys intention, it's to sleep with her. That's most guys motivation, whether they admit it or not...if you two are just hook up buddies, then why do you care what he does with this other girl? Are your feelings invested with him? These are the things you need to ask yourself. You want more, you want to be cared about and cherished and deep down you don't want to be a casual girl for this guy. Get someone else that will treat you like the queen that you are!
2007-01-12 05:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well unless I am mistaken, you have written that this GUY doesn't want a boyfriend at the mo and then something about him asking a girl out for lunch?!
Well for starters if he is gay he could just be having lunch with a friend! and if he is having some sort of relationship with this girl it is obvious he doesn't know exactly how he feels sexually
I would move on to someone who does know what they want rather than wait for someone who could end up hurting you in the long run
Good luck
2007-01-12 07:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you probably have no way to DEMAND and answer but you could casually inquire of him as to what he would be doing. Just as a topic of conversation. But you can't really make him tell you his intent. If you truly are friends as well and not just sex partners then I don't see harm in you asking.
edit: I do agree if he is going to be "hooking up" with this girl you have a right to know that because of the possibility of STD's
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2016-11-23 14:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already stated hes not looking for a long term relationship, If you ask his intentions with another he may take that as you getting clingy and to attached, best idea if you want things the way they are dont ask and if you want more then he is willing to give. step away before you get hurt.
2007-01-12 05:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by loveamouse7767 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd be asking him what his intentions are with the two of you - not the other girl. Let him know that you are interested in more than just hooking up.
2007-01-12 05:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u really feel. if he just sees u as **** buddies move on cuz thats all there is ever going to be. but if he sees u as a possible companion then try and make things work. if he says he has no feeling for u then dont ask about that girl and if he says yes then ask to c if there a possible fling going on between them
2007-01-12 05:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks ur just buddies than thats NOT crossing the line, but if he picks up on ur real intentions BE CAREFUL. from what i know about guys they dont express themselves much so dont expect him to open up.
2007-01-12 06:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by MoRoCcAn_GiRl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋