best tips for a new mom???

Question

hi!! i recently had a baby i dont live with my mother, grandmom, aunts or any other mothers that can give me advice on how to be a good mother, or tips on how tocare for a child, i'm sure that you have good tips or ideas even experiences so i can become a better mother than i am, thank you !!!

Answer 1

Try not to worry about the dust and cobwebs, enjoy your baby. Fill a couple baskets with diapers, wipes, rash creme, ect and put one in each room you will be spending time in. Saves time from running room to room searching for things.

Answer 2

First you don't mention whether yoyur babies dad is involved or living with you or if your family are close enough to be able to help if you need it- because EVERY new mom needs help in the beginning anyways- actually advice is always appreciated throughout a child's life! But if your family is close enough to come over to your place and just sit with the baby while you rest (this is right after birth up until you feel like your old self) that is a good idea to do.Also to have them watch the baby while you run errands and to just get out and take a break, specially if baby is fussy. If you EVER feel like you want to hurt the baby because he/she is being very fussy and hasn't stopped crying for 3 days (lol sort of) be sure the baby is in a crib or playpen and then go to a room and shut the door and count to 10 breath deeply and exhale and call whoever you can to come over and help out even if it is only for 15 min. Don't ever take your frustration out on the baby, they do not know what the hell is going on in the new world we bring them into and when they can't tell us whats wrong with them and all's they do is scream and cry , we are easily upset and can loose it on the baby- so PLEASE call anybody if you ever feel this way! Lots of love, fill their tummy's keep them warm and dry , snuggle, cuddle , kiss and most of all truely enjoy this time because before you know it they are in school!! Here is a few verses of a poem I copied from a book that I gave to me grandaught on her First B-day for her mom to put in the babies book:I use to hold your bottle-Now you hold it by yourself. You've just begun to toddle, and pull things from the shelf. We hardley used your stroller, Cause your walking on your own. You've grown your first molar and even talking on the phone! It's only been a year , And look at all you can do, I wipe away my tears As I imagine you at two! Ok that was the whole poem-but it is so true ! Good Luck and remember to love, love and hug, hug, that baby of yours!

Answer 3

Remeber to take atleast 15 minutes of the day to spend time with YOU! Only then can you keep building up patience and understanding for the very needy baby. To take that time for yourself will help you remember why you had a baby in the first place. Trust me as a mother of two boys, you'll need it and enjoy every minute you spend time alone. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

motherhood is something that i think you learn overtime. No one can tell you how to be your own mother, I am sure you have friends who would help you out once and a while. My problem is not having anyone tell me how to be a mommy, it's telling me how to be a mommy in so many ways. The best advice i can give you right now is rest as often as you can, babies do take a lot of energy to raise. Good luck.

Answer 5

Always remember that you are not raising a child, but teaching a child to be an adult. Teach your child the skills and confidence to be a good man or woman and the little stuff will take care of itself.
Respect, always treat your child with respect and you will teach him/her that respect should be given freely and is its own reward. Any person will get further by treating everyone with respect than being a Harvard scholar (that's good too though).

Answer 6

Either file your babies nails or cut them when he/she is sleeping that is the easiest, give bathes right before bedtime it will help them relax and sleep better, if your baby sleeps through the night don't get too used to it because it most likely won't last but enjoy it when it does happen, buy your diapers, wipes, formulas in bulk or when they are on sale stock up (if your budget allows) this will save you a lot of money in the long run, if you know what type of diapers you are going to use(ex; pampers or huggies) you can go to their websites and sign up for coupons to be sent to your house. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Use your mother's instinct. Don't sweat the small stuff such as if your house is spotless. Try to get as much rest when your baby is sleeping as you can. Being a new mother is a hard job, but very rewarding. Congratulations!

Answer 8

You'ce already got the one thing you need - you want to be a good mum.

People will give you loads of advice, most of it contrdictory. The main thing is to go with your instincts. You have a lot more than you realise. People can get very stressed out, especially over books allegedly written by "experts" - most of whom have never actually had children, just lots of exams.

Answer 9

Lots of loving, hugs and kisses, happy baby - happy mum.
Keep warm / cool depending on weather
Keep sun off baby while taking for walks, take for lots of walks, fresh air is good.
Change that nappy regularly and keep baby bathed and clean.
Breast feed if possible for as long as possible
Enjoy this time, it doesnt last long and remember you baby depends on you for EVERYTHING, they are innocent little creatures, be gentle and patient, if you are tired, sleep, have a nap when baby does.

Answer 10

I am sure that you are already a good mom, just as long as your baby is feed and clean then you are doing a great job. Oh and you cant forget love, I think love is just as important to a baby.