We have tried everything--rewards, all positive reinforcement techniques and still he refuses. He asks for his underwear and says he is going to go hide when he has to go. His doctor's appointment isn't until 2/3 so I have to wait until then to talk to him about it. If anyone can help I am open to all advice! THANKS!
2007-01-12 05:21:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I had the same problem....What we did was have a poop party every time he went into the toilet. We made big production about what a good job he did, what a big boy he was for doing it in the potty, how amazed we were with the size of the giant poop, gave high fives and celebrated. Then he got to flush it down and he would watch it until it was gone. We did this for a while, even after he started going on the potty consistently. It took about a month before the really bad skid marks disappeared, but I would rather skid marks instead of full underwear. We had to keep an extra eye on him until he got it completely down, because he did the same thing (hid to poop his pants). That's all you can do unfortunately. They will do it when they are ready. I had a lot of moms of boys tell me how hard a time they had getting their son's to go too, so it must be pretty common.
Good luck.
2007-01-12 05:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might not help you. But, I'm 21 and when I was 3 I wouldn't do it either. I would go #1 in the potty. But, not #2. Every time I needed to poo, I would ask for a diaper. So, one day we were at a picnic in a park and my mom told me that there were no more diapers for me at the store. And I guess that worked for me. The first place I ever did a number #2 in a potty was the park bathroom. Maybe you will find a lil humor in my story. It is true. So maybe it is common. By the way, my friend's step son will be 5 and is having the same problem. He has some difficulties though. He is autistic and has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Not saying that's what your kid has. I think he is just nervous like I was.
2007-01-12 05:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really isn't uncommon for kids to not go on the potty at that age, mainly #2. My youngest is 4 and only just several onths ago started going. She had a fear of it and would even try to hold it in. We thought she had problems going and took her to Boston children's and had her on medication to help her go, which made it worse cause she held it more. Finally she went on her own. We played up what a big deal it was to go on the potty, she had a potty box of small prizes to pick from etc. Basically, when she was ready she went. Forcing her made things worse cause she resisted more. It was frustrating but better than causing more of a problem.
2007-01-12 05:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by spicy_fun4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's had one scary experience with the potty or one hard or painful BM - kids his age will consciously hold it because they're scared.
Try this: put him in a warm bathtub with 2 ounces of baking soda in the tub. Give him some tub toys and let him play for up to 30 minutes in the tub. If he's holding it because he's scared to go, the warm water will help him relax and go. If he goes in the tub, no big deal - that's why there's bleach! =) I've told this to the mom of a stubborn 2 year old, and she said after 10 minutes in the tub, he got out and went to the potty.
2007-01-12 07:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the doctor's office and ask anyway. Some children are more ready at very different ages. If your son is pretty fluent verbally he should be able to tell you he has to go. Ask him why he won't go potty. Some children are embarrassed to go with grownups around. None-the-less, call and ask the doctor anyway. They don't charge to advise you over the phone. Talk to others you know who have been through this. including you and your husband's parents and grandparents.
2007-01-12 05:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the book "Everyone Poops" by Taro Gomi and Amanda Mayer Stinchecum - it is a fun, colorful explanation of #2 for kids. For some reason, for some kids, going #2 is scary for them. It's like a part of their body is leaving them! This book makes it sound natural and safe, and shows how different animals, bugs, birds, etc., do it, and how people do it, too, and it goes in the potty, etc. My kids loved it so much that they continued to read it for fun even as they got older. I don't know that it will fix things automatically, but it's worth a try....
2007-01-12 05:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by Poopy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had the same problem. I got so sick of cleaning out his underwear that I finally made him do it. After a couple times cleaning it himself he decided it wasn't fun. He now goes in the potty all the time. (If only I could get him to flush!!) Good luck
2007-01-12 05:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 yr old daughter did the same she asked for a diaper and hid in her closet. I asked her dr. about and he said to just ignore and not push the subject. We did just that and now she goes everytime in the potty! Good luck
2007-01-12 05:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by C&S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bought my son a piggy bank and let him paint it himself, Walmart has one made by Rose Art and it includes the paint. Well I told him that everytime he poops in the potty I would give him a quarter. He really gets excited getting his own money.
2007-01-12 05:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal. My oldest who is almost 9 did not and still does not like to go #2. I think when they are little they are worried something is going to fall out of them. I don't think he is doing it to be stubborn. Good luck.
2007-01-12 05:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by applecrisp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋