Is It Really A Sin?????

Question

IM 27 NEVER MARRIED AND I DONT HAVE ANY KIDS
IM GETTING OLDER NOW AND IN A FEW YEARS I WANT TO HAVE MY FIRST KID- I BELIVED IN MARRIAGE WHEN I WAS YOUNGER - I ALWAYS WANTED TO GET MARRIED- BUT NOW IM SOO SCARED OF GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE DIVORCE RATE IS SOO HIGH NOWADAYS (IM TOTALLY SCARED OF GETTING CHEATED ON) - I WANT A KID THOUGH - - IS IT REALLY A SIN TO HAVE A CHILD OUT OF WEDLOCK?????????????????? - IM NO RELIGION..................




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Answer 1

Having children out of marriage is not the sin, the sin is sex outside of marriage.

Judeo-Christian tradition has taught for thousands of years that it is God's will that:
+ Single people should be celibate.
+ Married people should be faithful to each other (adultery is wrong).

The Catholic Church recognizes the power of sex when it teaches, "Sexuality affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his body and soul."

Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person. A chaste person's body and spirit lives in unity and opposes any behavior that would impair that unity.

The purpose of sex is to bring a husband and wife closer and to create human life.

Fornication, sex between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman, is contrary to their human dignity and the dignity of human sexuality.

Adultery is even worse. Anyone who commits adultery
+ Does injury to the sign of the covenant which the marriage bond is
+ Transgresses the rights of the other spouse
+ Undermines the institution of marriage by breaking the contract on which it is based
+ Compromises the welfare of children who need their parents' stable union.

With love in Christ.

Answer 2

Sex outside of marriage is a sin. It is called fornication.

If you have no religion, why are you worried about sinning?

Having a child without both parents is a dis-service to the child. There are things a mother can teach a child that a father can not. There are things a father can teach a child that a mother can not. There is balance with both parents.

There are many single parent families out there and they are doing a wonderful job however, everything would be a little easier if they were couple raising the child (children) instead of one.

You say you are scared of being cheated on. Then you need to up your standards of who you would marry and make babies with...

Divorce won't happen if you take off the table and make it a non-option. You will need to find someone that feels the same about it. Some people use it as an excuse to get out of the vows they took. You and your husband (future) don't have to be like that.

For the child's benefit, please get married.

Answer 3

Since God is the originator of the family, he has the right to set the standards for it. According to the Bible, sex is to be confined to the marriage arrangement. If you're too scared to get married for fear of divorce, that ultimately means you're not in love with anyone. Consider that the Bible says that "love throws fear outside". Additionally, you shouldn't settle for someone...you need to find someone who holds your same values and morals. If you look for someone who doesn't consider divorce or adultery as an option, you'll have a much better chance at having a successful marriage. Granted, everyone is imperfect and people do make mistakes. The important thing to remember is that a successful marriage is made of two good forgivers. Even if you married someone and they happened to have an affair, it would be a good idea to discuss it to find out why they felt the need to go outside of the marriage in the first place. When needs aren't met, that's usually when someone strays to have those needs met elsewhere. And one last thing...if a couple strives to live in harmony with the Bible, they will put the other person first and wouldn't want to cause them pain. THAT is how it should work and it will work if applied properly by BOTH parties.

To sum up: 1) find someone who has your same standards and morals; 2) value your spouse and treat them well; 3) apply Bible standards in your lives.

Answer 4

Yes, according to the Bible fornication (sexual relations between people who are not married to each other) is a sin.

There is, however, hope! Since you are not still a kid, and I assume you are more mature than you were in your teens and early 20's, the odds are that once you are married, you will have a greater chance of it being a good marriage. With your desire to not go through a divorce, you will be more careful about who you marry and more committed to making it last. If you determine to keep selfishness out of your relationships, there’s no reason you will not be married for many years.

In 1996, Good Housekeeping magazine had a Happy Marriage Contest. People wrote in with advice on how to have a happy marriage. Here is what the winners wrote:
We gave… when we wanted to receive.
We served… when we wanted to feast.
We shared… when we wanted to keep.
We listened… when we wanted to talk.
We submitted… when we wanted to reign.
We forgave… when we wanted to remember.
We stayed… when we wanted to leave.

Don’t get married for the wrong reason! Getting married so you can have kids is the wrong reason. Find someone who makes you want to be the best person you can be! In return, help them be the best person they can be! Think about what you admire in others, and then apply those same standards to yourself. Be a person you can admire, and others will notice. Do things to help others. Be happy with yourself!

I’ve known a lot of people who finally decided that they were probably not going to ever get married, and decided they needed to just not worry about it and they should go on and live their life. They decided they should learn to be happy living life as a single, and next thing you know they were getting married.

You don’t have to be married to be happy! You don’t have to have kids to be happy! In fact, until you learn to be happy with yourself, you will never be happy with anyone else! If you are not happy being single, you probably will not be happy married and/or with kids.

You are still young! I didn’t get married until I was in my mid 30's. Now I have a wonderful marriage and two great kids. There is no reason you can’t do the same, but even if you never get married (or have kids), there’s no reason you can’t have a happy and rewarding life! Don’t wait! Start living now!

Answer 5

If you feel that you have the strength of will and support it takes to have and rear a child, do so and be blessed in it. It takes a great deal out of you to raise a child in this fast world. Keeping up with all of the influences and fears that will come is a daunting task. Keeping up with a child and a job on your own is difficult to say the least.
Before you get pregnant you need to realize that something in life must give to raise that child.The child must always come first it can never ever be the thing that gives. By virtue of having that child you give it a promise. To make that child better than the sum of yourself.
Can you do this alone? Can you honestly take on the added responsibility? Can you insure that the child will never suffer the lack of Mother's time? If you can not fill each of these things then please hold off till you find a husband that can and will support and love you and a child.
My temple is full of "Latch key" Kids. Beautiful wonderful children with one working parent and each one of those beautiful babies suffers for lack of mother. They play and socialize and have fun without added religious doctrine. But they are lonely. every one of them watches the door in wait for mom.
Can you insure that this wont happen to your child?

Answer 6

It is a sin to have sexual relations outside of marriage, but I am a product of a non married couple. My life was hard, my parents broke up dozens of times and my father even married another woman! so don't hesitate to get married because of the divorce rate, if you love your child to be, you will strive to provide a balanced and loving home for them with both parents. something I never really had. Choose your mate wisely and don't let your biological clock frighten you, if you do things God's way, you will be blessed with children, happy children. Jehovah is the originator of the family, and he knows best. You sound like you will be a great parent, but be the BEST parent to your children, do everything possible to give your children the security and love they need, including spiritual nourishment. Draw close to god and he will draw close to you.(James 4:8)

Answer 7

Maybe its not a question of sin but of trust. Do you trust that god will send you the right person at the right time? Dont look at the divorce rates, look at the ones where it works. You dont find rates on them. Talk to people who have happy relationships for more then 10 years. Ask them who they knew that they were right for eachother. Travel alittle and see europe, the divorce rates are not as high, maybe you will find you true love there. Whatever you do trust in god and use your brains when you meet somebody.
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Answer 8

It is a sin because God believes the marriage is sacred. He knows that a properly joined family has a better chance. Children need the stability of married parents. Marriages are crumbling because God has been exiled from the family equation. If you trust Him to send you the right mate, you'll be much better off. You'll still have problems, you'll still disagree, but God in the midst of you will give you a strong bond.

Answer 9

A lot of Christians would deem that a sin, to be honest. As for me, I'm not sure. If you had asked me seven years ago, I would have said that it WAS a sin. But now, I'm not so sure.

It really doesn't hurt anyone--particularly if you really feel that you are ready to raise a kid, and are willing to accept the responsibility. So...my advice is to just use your best judgment and make what seems to be the best decision for you.

Answer 10

Well adoption is actually a good thing.
The only other way is with a girlfriend, and I think if you and her stay serious and dont cheat then he would consider you married in his eyes as being loyal to each other. I mean, Adam and Eve didnt get married, and they had 500+ children.