The only time a friend of mine calls me is when she needs a baby-sitter for her one-year-old son. She's 21, lives with her sister because she got kicked out of her parents' house for getting pregnant by a black guy (as a matter of clarification, I don't agree with that), the baby's-daddy never comes around, and she constantly wants to go get drunk. I'm 20, live with my 22-year-old boyfriend, and have my own responsibilities. This is how every conversation goes:
Me: "Hello?"
Her: "Hey!"
Me: "Hey! What's up?"
Her: "You gotta work tomorrow?"
Me: "Yeah, 8:30-5:00, Monday thru Friday. As always. Why?"
Her: "Well, can you take off? Cause I need a baby-sitter for Marques."
Me: "Sorry, no. Just started that job in December, remember?"
Her: "Well, I need a baby-sitter"
I don't say much after that. She usually just says "Fine" and hangs up when she gets the hint. I'm never invited out, just to babysit. What should I tell her? I don't like getting rude with people but this is ridiculous!
2007-01-12 05:11:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The last time she called was on New Year's Eve while I had 15+ people at the apartment. I didn't answer the phone, knowing exactly what she wanted.
2007-01-12 05:12:44 · update #1
Actually, Alexa, if anything she owes me! Gas money, a few tabs at restaurants, clothes....
2007-01-12 05:30:46 · update #2
Oh, and I've never baby-sat for her before and the youngest kid I've ever baby-sat was eight-years-old, and that's cause he was my brother! I wouldn't know where to start with a toddler because I'm not ready for that kind of reponsibilty.
2007-01-12 05:36:15 · update #3
Strange, do you own her something? Why can't you just tell her strait what you just wrote here in Yahoo? The situation is very clear and your respond is very logical, only if you own her something...well then it's a different story.
It seems that for some reasons you feel guilty to tell her what is on your mind and because of that you almost hate her...which is not good for you and your health. You should kindly but firmly tell her that you understand that her situation is difficult and she has a lot of needs, but you are not in position to help her babysiting because you can't afford loosing your job and became needy and helpless...If such thing happened, you won't help her even with a little stuff as gas or clothes.
If she really needs help like that she has to find a social worker who will give her advise about that and how to get help from government.
You not refuse to help her when you can, but YOU ARE NOT in right position to help her as a babysitter. Just simply say: "I'm sorry can't babysitt, but maybe I can do something else for you?." Like buy some food for the baby or making important calls.
Do not let irritation or anger take up on you, help her when you really can and honestly explain when you can't.
2007-01-12 05:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. She asked you to take off work to babysit her kids, which is saying "I don't care if you have a life because mine is more important" That is something that a true friend would never do.
2. You need to tell her how you feel in order to save whatever friendship you have left.
2007-01-12 13:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by boogers 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her that you feel she is only using you to be a baby sitter and that if she wants to hang out that you would love to and baby sit occasionally but you have other obligations that prevent you from doing so all the time.
2007-01-12 13:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a caller id and monitor your calls.
2007-01-12 13:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋