My sister wants to come down in for Febuary Vacation to see my baby (I'm due in 5 days). However I have a few issues with this and I tried to polietly tell her that we would rather she didn't come down because it's going to be busy and I'd rather she wait till I came home in May, to see the baby.
However she continues to insist and I don't know what to do. My reasons for not wanting her to come down are simple.
1. She waited until after the fact to let people know that she or the girls are sick. At Thanksgiving she waited two days to tell me she and my nieces had strep throat...which I ended up with. Then She waited until AFTER my babyshower to tell me that my niece had scarlet fever. So everyone was exposed at my shower.
I do not want to risk the chance of my child getting sick.
2.We have no room here. Honestly this is a really small apartment and I know she can't afford to rent a hotel room.
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2007-01-12 05:09:58 · 9 answers · asked by Just Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can't very well tell her she can't come here because it is after all a free country but I don't know how to get it through her head that this is going to be a very hectic time for me and with my InLaws going to be here for a month and having to worry that My mom will come down and start a fight with my MIL, the whole thing is just really hard. I'm trying not to get stressed out but I don't know what else to do.
I also know that my sister will turn this around and tell my nieces that I don't want them here or that I am the reason that can't go to Disney, which she wouldn't take them if she were here.
Please Help!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-12 05:12:36 · update #1
Try telling her the truth and stick to your guns.
2007-01-12 05:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the other posters. Tell your sister that you love her and are so glad she is excited about your baby!! Then tell her how hectic your life is going to be....and that you wouldn't be able to spend any time with her or her girls (and therefore the baby wouldn't either) because of the time you need alone to bond with the baby and because your inlaws will be in town.
Tell her, straight out, that you want to wait until you come home in May.
If she still insists....just tell her that you really don't want her visiting at that time. Firmly, but nicely.
If she STILL insists, you are going to have to be more firm and LESS nice!!
This is YOUR special time with the baby. YOUR time to bond and to become confident in your innate mothering skills. This IS NOT the right time for OTHER people to shoulder in on this irreplacable time with your child.
2007-01-13 03:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you don't want her to come and you are right. Your baby could be in real danger if somone sick comes near it. I think you should tell her that now is not the right time for her to come since there will be no room and the baby should stay away from a lot of people and you want to keep the visitors to a minimum because it is flue season....
2007-01-12 13:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by sallyandlula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are going to be very busy, You have no extra room for her to stay with you and that you don't want to have to deal with the added stress of her being there. Plus you know you are going to just tell her. So do it and get it over with.
Hope it all works out OK.
2007-01-12 13:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply inform her that this is a very busy time right now and that you and your husband would like to spend some time with your new arrival and that you will see her in May.
2007-01-12 13:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just need to be honest with her that is really the only way just tell her i dont think that its a good idea to come at this time, and just be real and if she cant understand that is her problem, i mean there will be other times that she can come to visit but honesty is the best policy and if that is your sister she should understand, and congrats in your new baby good luck.
2007-01-12 13:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by brown_eyedgurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to think back to when she had your neices. I'm sure she had a hectic time and just wanted to bond with them just like you want to do. I don't think she should get so upset. You're not telling her she can't visit, just to push it up a few months. Good luck!
2007-01-12 14:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth, and stand your ground
2007-01-12 13:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by Domino's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she will be welome in May and not before. If she gets mad, she'll get over it.
2007-01-12 13:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋