It seems as though my co worker is interest in me but he just doesnt ask me out,but gets upset when im with other guys!We dnt really talk so i dont know him that well,could it be coz im a different race?Hes white im indian,now hes scared of his family &friendz?What they mite say
2007-01-12 05:05:09 · 43 answers · asked by Cassý 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cold reality do you really like this guy?
well then go straight at him and ask him out, and tell him that you want to get to know and understand him better.
2007-01-12 05:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of different reasons. You might have a good idea about the race thing but don't count on it. There isn't that much difference in between the two of you and in this day and age race doesn't mean a whole lot to many. It's quite easy to see that he cares for you and would like to have you for himself but he may be shy (I am) so he won't ask you out. You might consider asking him to get a cup of coffee or tea with you, that may be just what it takes to get the ball rolling.
As for his Friends and family, if he's over 18, they make no difference. Get him to go with you for coffee or tea and things will come out in the open. Don't judge him for what others think.
2007-01-12 05:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see several thing which could end up being problems here, but first and foremost:
Don't date co-workers. If the relationship doesn't work out, you still have to work with them.
Another problem: If he seems jealous to you NOW when you AREN'T dating, how crazed wiould be if you WERE dating?
I wouldn't factor in the racial issue. If he's attracted to you, it isnt because of your skin color (at least I hope it isn't). If he is indeed attracted to you, he shouldn't car what his family and friends say about it. It's none of their business.
Last bit of advice: DON'T DATE CO-WORKERS. It hardly EVER works out the way you hope it will.
2007-01-12 05:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating one's co-workers is more often that not a Bad Idea. If you are interested in him socially, then have the courage to ask him out, but do so with the understanding that it could end up with one or both of you being required to move on from your current place of employment.
2007-01-12 05:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope it's not a racial thing - but I suppose HE might be afraid that YOU 're not interested because of that! It looks as if the only way to find out is to casually suggest an outing together - perhaps a foursome to begin with - e.g. 'I'm really looking forward to tonight cos I'm going to see that new film with Fred and Jo - oh, do you fancy coming along?'' Maybe if he says yes, you can get to know one another better. Good luck!
2007-01-12 05:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by mad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think that he's scared of what his family might say. When it comes to relationships boys are nonchalant about what other people think/say/do. He's scared because he encountered such a pretty girl as you that's popluar around guys and had no idea how to approach you. You are intimidating to him, so why don't you say hi to him or something. Be open and make it seem as though you Are available, because with having all those guys around you it seems as though you aren't single.
2007-01-12 05:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even bother with him !
If he is really interested then he will ask you out. If he doesn't well then he is stupid and being shy is not an excuse. Plus who cares if he gets mad if you talk to other guys, you don't belong to him unless he asks !!
Another thing, I don't think race has anything to do with it and if he really likes you, then he won't care about what his family or friends say.
2007-01-12 05:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kiddo, I don't think race has anything to do with relationships, I know it sounds cliche', but we truly are one race. There could be a few things, you could be really attractive to him and he's scared to death to be rejected by you; he could be in a relationship, but he can't help his attraction to you, though he doesn't act on it; there could be a policy that he can't date within the office. Don't start looking for the holes in your fabric, (we have to get past that as people) we get a quiet moment and our self talk starts to tear us down; just know you have and are everything that anyone would be thrilled to have in their lives, and when its right, it will all unfold so much better than anything you could imagine for yourself. Be patient....he'll be there....
2007-01-12 05:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should try talking to him..find out if what you think is going on with you to is really going, and if so, ask him out..although i must warn that relationships with co workers isn't always good. i had one before, a really meaningful one i must say, but in the end i had lossed my job over it because of the politics of the company. but if you still want him, then you need to talk with him, and don't play hard to get..good luck
2007-01-12 05:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by kristina43 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it's because you are a different race. Race doesn't matter. Why dont you go ask him if you have interest in him. If your going out with other guys, it probably means you dont have any interest in him, if so, juss give him the heads up.
2007-01-12 05:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by fly_bo1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is afraid of telling his family and friends that he is dating a person from a different race, then he is a closet raciest. Are you not proud of the people that you associate with, I wouldn't be bothered with some one like that, as they are toying with an idea not being realistic
2007-01-12 05:12:02 · answer #11 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋