So he came home right from the military on break. The jerk doesn't even want to spend time with me. He hasn't called and we had made plans to hang out this Friday and Saturday and next weekend as well. I get an email saying he has some bad news. And boy did I blow up. He makes me angry. Should I even be with him in the first place?
2007-01-12 05:01:12 · 17 answers · asked by al_ex24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He obviously doesn't care about you that much. I would dump him. If he loved you, he would be there with you.
2007-01-12 05:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military relationships can be hard in the first place, it's not just a long distance relationship but it's strain on the uninvolved partner because everyday you have to worry whether this person is going to make it out or not. There are some people who can deal with this strain, and people like me, which I think you are can't. It's just too much. If he loves you, he should at least make time to come by and see you. Can he stand going back home and not seeing you for however long? Maybe he's just trying to surprise you or something. Or maybe he just can't stand seeing you again fearing that he may not want to go back to where you aren't. You should try to talk to him but if you can't handle the strain of a military relationship you should get out now before he goes back that way you can do it in person. Not to start to anything, but my father was in the military most of the time he said that all those G.I.s cheat on their partners with fellow army women. I'm not saying that he's doing it, but when you get into a relationship and you don't think it's long term you shouldn't get involved. Before you break up with him give it careful thought and ask yourself these questions: Can I handle the agony of losing him and not being with him when I want? Can I spend the rest of my life doing this? Can I have children and leave them without a father? Can I be faithful to him even while he is miles away?
Though being the military is a very noble and just career it's not something that you want to voluntarily get into if you don't give it much thought. So take time to think. Make a list of pros and cons. Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-12 13:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was that the bad news, not spending time with you that you want or maybe he found someone while over there? You never say. Did you wait for what the bad news was? Did someone die in his family, does he deploy back sooner than expected. You never said what the bad news was we can only speculate at what and why you went off. Without that info it is hard to say. Knowing that he is home for only a break and you are not the only person in his life yes this will probably be the pattern and I would say if you cannot handle how he is making you feel find someone that will make and treat you better.
2007-01-12 13:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby was in the military and when he would come home all he wanted was a shower and to sleep, he would actually get pissed off if I bothered him for anything the first day he was back. He is out now and is not like that anymore. I think all that screaming that they do back in forth and calling each other names and stuff makes them become a jerk. Give him a few days to rest and than talk to him in a calm voice and tell him how it made you feel when he acted that way. p.s. My hubby told me this several years later but he would go 48 hours no sleep when he would be gone on those missions your boyfriend is probley just tired.
2007-01-12 13:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what made you so mad in the first place. He's home on leave from the military - it's vital that he has some time to relax and take care of personal matters. The "bad news" probably means he's getting shipped out to Iraq, which kinda makes the last-minute cancellation of your weekend plans seem petty in comparison.
Try putting yourself in his shoes, and don't mask your fear for his safety behind some bogus and unfounded anger.
2007-01-12 13:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be irrational, hear what he has to say, and if he has a good enough reason, forgive him, and let it go. If he says he just doesnt want to spend time with you while hes home, then the next time he comes home, give him the same treatment hes giving you now and he ll see how much hes hurting you. Its your life, you and only you know what you should do. Do Not make a decision while your angry, you will come to regret it as soon as its decided. I know, been there, done that.
2007-01-12 13:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by lilsis3070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like this relationship is meaningful to him. If he doesn't spend the precious time he does get away from his call of duty, then maybe you should move on cause you dont mean that much to him.
2007-01-12 13:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not a priority for him right now. You deserve better- someone that wants to spend every chance they have with you. Before breaking up with him, I would ask him why he didn't want to see you and that it hurt your feelings. See how he reacts and what his response is. If he doesn't want to be with you, then why should you want to be with him.
2007-01-12 13:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rockinrobin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what was his bad news? or did he even answer? guys are so weird like this. one minute they love you then one minute its like "oh snap, i wanna go hang out with the boys". if you feel like you dont care anymore just dump him. even if it seems like right now theres no one out there for you, i promise youll find someone soon. it always happens when you least expect it!
2007-01-12 13:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Rileysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely over. He needs more space (he's in the military for goodness sake), and you deserve better.
2007-01-12 13:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by gingi_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing I can tell you is to follow your heart and if you feel like you should break up with then I was one of God's Signs telling you that he is not the one for you and that he has someone else better for you
2007-01-12 13:06:55 · answer #11 · answered by N/A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋