I've just failed in life, NO MORE COLLEGE.?

Question

im only 20 and just got kicked out of college.

my mom gets blamed for everything. I dont feel sorry for me,
I feel sorry for her.she worked very hard sending me to good schools.
I just removed all my stuff from the dorm, my dad was angry and blamed my mom. She works so hard, but she always gets blamed when I skrew up.

I cant speak up, Im scared to. He speaks so loud its like he's yelling, and I just realized there is really no love between them. He and I are two diffrent people, with one dominant over the other. i hate life right now. I just finished enrolling at a community college, but I dont know what to do with my life.

I just want to be rich now. Get money, get out of the ghetto, away from home and have peace of mind again.

my grandmother's funeral is in 5 days, I have to be out of the country, and I want to die. I will have to miss the first week of classes at the new college.please just keep me from killing myself, whats next.
there so much, but no room to type.

Answer 1

you haven't failed in life just because you got kicked out of college. It happens to a lot of people. I think everything happens for a reason. I made really good grades in school, but instead of going to a university I decided to go to a community college. Maybe the bigger school was just too much for you. I'm almost finished with my first year. i wanted to start off small and then move up. If you miss the first week of classes it should be okay. Usually the first week is just you checking out if you want to stay in the class or drop it. Or you could try meeting with some of the instructors before you leave to get their email address and you can email them and see if they assigned anything the first week.

so your dad. it's kinda hard to say because it depends on you. You need to stand up for yourself and your mother but I have a big/loud dad and I know that's not always easy. But my parents are divorced. I would attempt to tell him it's not your mothers fault but give him a reason for it not being her fault. If he continues to blame her he's just being stubborn and there's not much you can do about that.

I know how you feel about getting rich. I wanted the same thing. I will tell you that the most important thing is that you be happy with the career/path you choose. I haven't decided on a major yet because I still don't know what I want. I'd try some different things and find some things you may like to do. Try not to get caught up in the money part and worry about being happy first, then the money will follow. But I'd use the getting rich part to fuel yourself to stay in school because without school that probably won't happen.
sorry about your grandmother.all i can say is everything will get better. good luck with everything!

Answer 2

Get a hold of yourself girl! Take things day by day. Try and figure out what you want out of life.
My wife was in a similar situation. She had a mean father and a mother who just took the abuse to see her kids succeed. Along the way she had some minor set backs. College was one of her set backs. Eventually though she did graduate. At the time she felt like she was letting her mother down, but that was not the case. It actually made their relationship stronger.

I think you need to keep working hard. Cope with your family problems and get yourself an education. Once your done with college, it will allow you independence you have never experienced before.

Stay strong and God bless

Answer 3

heres a qoute: when your down to nthing god is up to something, and just remeber to take it one day at a time life is hard and we all entitled to a few mistakes, and you shouldnt be so hard on your self it seems as if you have a wonderful mom and you are blessed for that just try talking to her and telling her everything that you are feeling cuz it seems as if you are going through alot right now and it can be tough to do it by your self, so just tell your mom i need to talk and i need you to isten and just start talking and she will be there for you and as far as your dad, thats tough but some people are like that. i am so sorry to hear about the loss of your grandmother, but this is the time for you take actionand start telling people whats troubling you and if you cant het a journal and write it HELPS but dont hurt your self and dont think about it either, good luck sweetie.

Answer 4

advice i found helpful at my low points is take it ONE day at a time. it keeps you from getting overwhelmed. you will be ok sweetheart don't give up. I'm so sorry you are having a rough time. :(

Answer 5

Jesus is the answer, he is the way, the truth and the light. Pray and i promise everything will be alright

Answer 6

get yourself a job (any job) even if you have to clean toilets, then get a place of your own, and you can be independent, and if your father upsets you, dont go to see him, only go to see your mother.