2007-01-12 04:48:47 · 23 answers · asked by stephanie_abbas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, I am 5'10" and weigh 200lbs, I'm not a size two, i'm a healthy size 16. My fiancee loves me for who I am, not for what I look like! He tells me that he thinks I'm sexy and that I turn him on. There are guys out there that look at what is on the inside. You also need to show that you are confident in who you are and that you don't care what other people think. To thine own self be true!!!
2007-01-12 04:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys do love what's inside. What's outside counts too, is the thing, especially at making your first impression. Would YOU date the best guy in the world if he was 400 pounds, came up to you and could barely get out "hello, my name is..." between all of the wheezing?
It kind of sickens me that a lot of girls cling to the idea that what's on the outside matters, when the same ones harp on all day about love at first sight. What else is love at first sight based off of, if not physical attributes? Hypocrisy at its best, ladies and gentlemen.
It's a fact of life. Sorry. Go make a plan to lose some weight, and you will suddenly be treated much better by both the people in your life, and by random strangers. But... weight loss is primarily for YOU. it will shoot up your confidence, energy and discipline at the same time as making you more attractive and desirable. It's a win-win.
2007-01-12 12:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do love what is inside, but they are attracted first to what is outside. However, being a couple is really about more than those two ancient parts on the inside/outside game.
If he is asking you to change as a condition of his love or commitment, then his priorities are not right, but then we humans often have our priorities mixed up and often do not even know it.
You should turn the other cheek on this one and ask yourself how much you are willing to give this man, in the way of love, the way he is, and not the way you want him to be.
You see, you can not fix him, nor can he fix you. We can fix ourselves with a lot of help and work along the way.
Good Luck!
2007-01-12 13:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess guys just see appearance first. I think everyone's body should be proportional but that can't always happen. some girls are big on top other big on the bottom. and different guys have their different preferences. I think this mostly relates to sex. I'll say most not all guys just want sex, but a lot of times appearance goes into finding someone to sleep with. So they really don't care what's on the inside, it's all about finding someone to sleep with. when you do find a guy that isn't just looking for sex, then usually those are the ones who see what's on the inside not just the oustide. at least that's what i think.
2007-01-12 13:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you define slim... Personally, "slim" girls are usually more attractive as a choice for a mate. I mean that, in terms of being able to raise a healthy child, the more fit one is, the better genes they most likely have. I would also venture the answer that the more fit the female, the better she is at protecting a child. that all being said, there are many people who love people who aren't necessarily slim. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places??
2007-01-12 12:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by churnin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the problem is in the guys you are going after! Honestly I get SO sick of girls saying that its whats inside that counts because I know for a fact that whats outside counts for them too. There is a reason why big guys have a harder time finding a woman...same for us really skinny guys. You ladies look PLENTY at the looks too so that is total BS!
Maybe the problem is that you are going after the pretty boys that can have their pick of the litter...maybe you should take your own advice and go after some less attractive guys who are great guys and see what they say. I bet you will see great results!
2007-01-12 13:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because guys didnt have a chance to know inside before guys get know more abt women. It just happened that guy look at girl's looks before know inside. So i guess its their habit but just wait till someone see her inside before judge. Also people can't stop judge too
2007-01-12 12:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. I know alot of my guy friends like girls that are a little more.... robust, shall we say. If a guy doesn't like you because you're a little bigger than some other girls, that's his problem, not yours. When you find a good guy he'll like you for you and not for what you look like (or don't look like). There are alot of really good guys out there... just be paitent, you'll find him in time.
2007-01-12 12:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people now-a-days are lulled into the dogma that "thin is in" and they see only in this idea they don't see the beauty inside the person they see as in the adult vids where the skinny ones are more nimble and flexible than full-set beings. maybe this is true but my wife and myself are "full-set" and ther is not much we don't do (he-he-he). keep looking and you might find the one you need to be with for life
2007-01-12 12:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by Bucky411_hit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends for what. For love they see beyond the outside. Although it might take a while...
2007-01-12 12:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by queen bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋