I first met my girlfriend when I was just 16...we had to be separated (I was 18 then) as I'd to go for my syudies. I was still madly in love with her when I was 26 and finally got married to her. But now I realize, during the time we were not together, things have changed a lot. We have grown up our own likes and dislikes. We lo longer share same type of feelings. I feel happier when I'm at work or when I'm with my friends. Is it okay to have an extra marital affair?
2007-01-12 04:33:48 · 22 answers · asked by Soumyadeep 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no reason to go behind her back. Tell her how you feel and go your separate ways. If you cheat on her and never let her know that you don't love her anymore then you're wasting her life away. Maybe you aren't in love with her anymore, but at least respect her enough to be honest.
2007-01-12 04:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by GenshiYagyu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, unless you want to end your marriage. When you cheat, it makes your marriage void in teh eyes of God. In the vows that you say when you marry you promise to forsake all others. If you want to leave the marriage, you can cheat, but to be honest it's a very hurtful way to do it and your wife will probably hate your guts for the rest of your life. That may not mean much now, but when you think of the past you share, you will feel pretty bad to have hurt her very badly and that you will have broken up in such an ugly fashion. My advice is to either tell her you need to work on the marriage, become closer, because it sounds like youre feeling the 7 year itch kind of feelings that are common in most marriages. Or just end the marriage outright before you demean yourself and hurt her by breaking some very important vows.
2007-01-12 04:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Just because your unhappy in your marriage does not make it ok to cheat. You need to address your issues with the marriage. If you guys don't think you should be together, then split up. Don't string her along, sleep around, and ultimately HURT her more then you need to (damaging her self esteem and confidence for the rest of her life). Just because your too chicken chit to address the real problem, doesn't make it ok to have an affair. Your just distracting from the real problem.
Talk to her... maybe she's unhappy too, and just afraid to say it cause you guys have been together so long and your all she knows too! Starting over is scary.. but sometimes very necessary for both of your happiness.
2007-01-12 04:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by CEP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you arrange your life, you are always going to go through periods of temptation. No matter how pretty or nice your wife is. If you have an affair, eventually, you will find another woman you want to have an affair with. It's a never ending cycle. Just stay where you're at , or get divorced first
2007-01-12 04:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by lefty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not okay. Maybe you should go to her and try to work through your differences. Since you were once madly in love with her, I bet it is possible to stir up those feelings again, and I think you owe it to each other since you made the promise of marriage to each other. If it still doesn't work, get a divorce, then go do your thing.
2007-01-12 04:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by *apes* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just my 2 cents,
Its ok as long as both people understand that the affair is just no-strings sex and that it will never interfere with your marriage (i.e. meeting when you can easily get caught, etc.)
I feel that by having sex on the side that is just physical, you are not going to get frustrated or bored later in your marriage because you can't
It is a physical, natural, instinct for humans to want sex and want sex with others.... It's only wrong and hurtful if you treat your affair like another relationship and try to love the person you are cheating with...
2007-01-16 04:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by amgraccord 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 14:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book, "Everyman's Battle." Then practice what you have read. Right now you are just trying to justify an affair. If you do it, are you really prepared for the consequences: guilt, shame, STD's?
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2007-01-12 04:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bill G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It will mess things up and you'll still be unhappy. If you are no longer a couple get a divorce and let her be free to move on too.
2007-01-12 04:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by psi2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You made vows to her. Either make it work or divorce her, then you can have whoever you want! Does honer mean nothing to you? Honer for yourself, that you are trustworthy! What kind of a person are you???
2007-01-12 04:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋