When do i send out engagement announcements, and to whom? I would like to let people know, even if they may not be invited to the wedding. I also don't want it to look like i'm looking for gifts or something of the like.
Can it be just a happy announcement to let people know how happy we are?
2007-01-12 04:32:21 · 15 answers · asked by pb&jelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No one. Formal, mailed engagement announcements are not appropriate, as per etiquette.
You can announce it publicly in the paper but you should not send something out to individual people by mail. People who receive something like that WILL be led to believe you will be inviting them to the wedding.
Let those closest to you know by phone, or email, or letter, or write about it in your next batch of Christmas cards (do not share specific dates or specific plans with anyone you will not be inviting-- it is rude to share details of a future event with someone who will not be invited to it-- a simple, general "Brian and plan to be married next November" is plenty).
But no printed-up, "invitation-style" announcements. That either says "Expect an invitation" or "Give me a gift" or "Look at me, I think it's a good idea to make a spectacle of myself."
2007-01-12 09:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Engagement announcements are usually sent out when the couple plans a long engagement. They should be sent to everyone who will be invited to the wedding. However, if you are concerned about people thinking you are looking for gifts, then I would suggest that you don't send the announcements to people who won't be invited to the wedding. In the alternative, you can send the announcements to coincide with another holiday or event. For example, you can send a Valentine's Day card to everyone (like a photo card), saying Happy Valentine's Day & By the Way, We're Engaged! Or a moving card, saying we've just moved in together, here's are new address, and we're engaged!
2007-01-12 09:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think sending out formal engagement announcements is very tacky, and looks like you are asking for gifts. Normally, putting an announcement in the paper is all that is done. If you have a date set, then just state the month, not the actual day.
If you have friends and family from out of town, make copies of the announcement that is in the paper, and send it to them with a note. Or just write them a personal note. But I wouldn't send any to people you don't plan on inviting to the wedding.
Best wishes to you!
2007-01-12 21:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure it can be, a lot of the time the local paper will do something if you want to let people know without any strings attached.... otherwise i'd send it to people you would consider inviting otherwise you could hurt some people's feelings. Also another route is sending out an email with a picture to most of you contacts, it's a stress free yet still personal way of letting everyone know
2007-01-12 04:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jess B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't send an engagement announcement to anyone you are not planning on inviting to the wedding.
I didn't even send out "formal"announcements, the newspaper will run one for you. You probably will have to pay a fee if it goes over their limit, or some papers you have to pay regardless, but it's worth it.
2007-01-12 04:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sent my Wedding Announcments to my Family and Friends. I sent the Save the Date cards to the people I am inviting.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-12 04:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by JAG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An engagement announcement is not a request for a gift. It is simply intended to announce an event -- your engagement. Nobody receiving an announcement should feel obligated to send a gift.
2007-01-12 04:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by SassySister 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you just want people to know then make it informal and witty. Print up your own and use your own words. This way it's not like a "Save the Date" kind of announcement. Also, put it in the area papers. My mother still calls me and says "guess who got engaged........."
2007-01-12 04:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by Pattie T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send it to anyone and everyone that you want to, although you might want to limit to just those that will be invited to the ceremony. Otherwise, people may get upset that you told them you were getting married and didn't invite them.
2007-01-12 06:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only send them to people who will be invited. Nobody cares how happy you are. They just want to know if they're invited or not.
2007-01-12 05:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋