I am in love with someone who I think is in love with me.We have spent lots of time together for the last 5 months but for some reason he does not want to be in a relationship. It really hurts me because I am in love but I am not sure what to do next. Should I walk away? or should I stick around to see what will happen? He is everything I've been looking for and he is everything I want but last night when I told him how I felt we got into an argeement and before I know it I was telling him that I hate him but deep down all I really want it to be with him. So what is a girl to do?
2007-01-12 04:30:51 · 14 answers · asked by Lady B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Great Question. I hope this helps you. It was good for you to express your feelings for him. Probably not so good that it got complicated and resulted in telling him that you hate him. Maybe your next conversation will be to apologize to him for saying you hate him, when your feelings are really the opposite. You just felt hurt for not getting the expected reaction from him that you wanted. Then use a little reverse psychology on him by reiterating your love for him, but that if he doesn't want a relationship with you, then you are moving on. Don't do anything else, (call him, visit him, or anything else). If he feels the same way about you, then absence from you may bring him around back to you. If not, then you still haven't lost anything, because if this is completely one sided, then you need to distance yourself from him till you are over him.
2007-01-12 04:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by FordGT guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know sweetie, you have to take chances in life. If you feel like he may be the one then stick with it. Don't let him just walk out of your life. If you do then you will always ask yourself "What could have been". I am in a similar situation myself, only I kind of screwed up. I am totally in love with this girl, but she is not trying to get into a relationship because she is not a big believer in second chances. For some reason I am still there, just waiting because I honestly believe in my heart that she is the ONE!! You may not have the same feelings about this guy, but you will be really upset with yourself if you just give up. Some times persistence pays of hun. Stay positive and good luck!
2007-01-12 12:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I beleive you should get away from him. Give him time to think of what he wants. I made a mistake by sticking to him eventhough he would tell me he didn't want a relationship and how he was hurt etc. Well I was with him for 3 years! YES 3 YEARS all those years I WAS STUPID plain and simple..he hurt me everyway possible until I realized that it was TOOOO MUCH I left and now think I spent some much time for WHAT??? I didn't gain ANYTHING! Think about it...just becareful wishing you the best!
2007-01-12 12:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by JAG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though he doesn't have the same feelings for you so why are you being desperate? Separate yourself from this guy and focus on self. You'll find someone who will love you the way you deserve. Never allow any guy to keep you lingering around if a relationship isn't what he wants. You deserve alot more than that.
2007-01-12 12:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not feel the same way you do respect that. Wouldn't you want him to do the same? You never know maybe one day he will come around. Until then cherish the friendship you both have. Now and days that is a rarity.
2007-01-12 12:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by spanishflycutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Ive been in love with someone who didnt want a relationship at the time - hold on til u r ready to let go. thats the only way. trust me i know
2007-01-12 12:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by kizdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu have to give him a decision. Have him pick the choice, start with relationship with you or he will lose you, i am sure you will find guy better than him and want a relationship with you. I know its hard but it might make him realize that he doesnt want let you go.
2007-01-12 12:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really like him stay with him but if he doesn't have the same feelings for you and you're still in the relationship he is going to use you sooner or later!!
2007-01-12 12:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by prettyting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him go. if you tell i guy how much you feel about him and he doesn't feel the same way back. i think you should let him go. or wait a couple of weeks see how he feels. give him a little bit of time. you never know he might. is just v\nervous to tell you how he feels
2007-01-12 12:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mz T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him how you feel. Now give him some time to process all that. If he feels the same way, he'll come around.
2007-01-12 12:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋