my boyfriend and i have been having some problems lately. we tried to "take a break" and i really miss him. i dont want to be with hime if things were like how they were before but i miss him too much to not want to be with him anymore. im not really sure what to do about it.
2007-01-12 04:24:02 · 4 answers · asked by cassidythehoodlum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been there, hang in there chica!
Best advice I can give you - get out there, go on a few dates. Take advantage of this 'break time'. What you need to figure out is if you REALLY miss him for him, or if you miss being in a relationship. (In my case, I definitely missed being in a relationship. Took a few other dates to realize that yes, I liked being comfortable - but all of the BS wasn't worth it.) If you do miss him for him, give it one more honest go. Tell him how you feel. Communication is key. However, if you have to ask the question - I get the feeling your head is telling you there's a lot of signs pointing to the fact it is over, and your poor confused heart is hanging on.
Secondly - evaluate the 'problems' you were having. Dating is about looking for the long term, and what they say is true: Don't expect to change someone. What you're getting, 95% of the time, is what you see now. In fact, those annoying habits will probably just get worse and more obvious. If you can pick out some things he does now that you think "I just can't handle that for my the rest of my life, really"..I would assume it should be over.
That's not to say there's no hope for happiness.. we're all some level of 'crazy'. Just gotta find that level of crazy you can deal with!
Good luck...we've all been there.
2007-01-12 04:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by country_girl_in_a_city 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he treats you like Crap!You also know it's over when he won't return your calls, or if he frowns when he sees you- instead of smiling!!!
2007-01-12 12:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by The Isht! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u took a break, its over
2007-01-12 12:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by kizdrop 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when his always figting with you
2007-01-12 12:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋