Basically, My parents hate anyone who looks different, my close friend has piercings, and My mom always says stuff like oh he is so nice, but he would be so much better with out those piercings on his face.....I personally Love piercings on men, I think they are attractive and hot...so how do i explain they arent wrong in my eyes? and that they dont make him a bad person?
Thanks
2007-01-12 04:20:25 · 14 answers · asked by Autumn Blonde ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks everyone...The answers are all awsome!
2007-01-12 07:52:53 · update #1
Why do you have to explain?
Listen. Ask your parents what they were like when they were young. Were they hippies? Did they wear long hair and smoke pot and wear bell-bottom jeans? Or were they the disco kids, who went around with big messy hair, drunk all the time in crotch-squeezing pants? Or are they older, and did they bob their hair and mimic Elvis?
Each generation thinks the next generation is over-the edge and looks "bad." They probably were thought of the same way by their parents, and their parents before them.
If you must explain, keep that in mind when you listen to their reaction.
2007-01-12 04:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, piercings don't make a person bad but too many makes them look like a thug or someone they are too young to know isn't a good person. I own a tattoo and body piercing studio and there is a thing of being overly pierced. One of my clients had 27 piercings in his face alone and that's a bit much besides, piercings can be taken out unlike a tattoo. Your mother is old school (so am I but I live with it). don't down her for what she has been brought up believing but help her to see the truth.
Good luck!
2007-01-12 12:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to explain till you are blue in the face but they have there own opinion. Unfortunately.
If you think it's hot and this is the person you like then before you take them to your parent tell them how your parent feel about them and to expect to be talked about. The good thing about this is they can still give someone a chance as long as they aren't being disrespectfull and refusing to meet the person then there is still hope. It's just something they might have to get use to.
2007-01-12 12:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry , i am with your mom, sure he may be a nive person, but the piercings show that he has a self destructive side, and she doesn't want to see you caught up or in the middle when he blows !, perhaps you need to look at things from her perspective as well and then from all perspectives, take the blinders off, and see the whole picture, not jus what is in front of you , do not be so narrow minded and self centered !, accept other possibilities !, piercings today self mutilation and cutting tomorrow, then what ?
2007-01-12 12:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are probably set in their ways. Probably pointless to try to get them to change their minds. Tell them that you respectfully disagree with their opinions and move on. You can't spend your life worrying about your parents opinions when you are an adult. That is why they call it a generation gap. Nothing new, it has been that way since the dawn of time. Keep your chin up and don't let anyone make you feel bad for having your own thoughts and opinions.
2007-01-12 12:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by Alexandriagal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Piercings are not the norm so thats what is bothering your parents. My son didn't stop at piercing his ears, he's got objects in them. I think he has mutilated them and will be working minimum wage jobs until he fixes that. He thinks we're old fashioned. People who pierce themselves in unlikely places are rebels. They need to resolve their conflicts, make peace with society and grow up.
2007-01-12 12:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by psi2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents are protective which is a good thing because it means that yes they do indeed love you. Parents like yours tend to see facial piercings as a form of rebellion, not of self expression. People who are rebeling often do stupid things that can harm themselves and others around them. (drinking and driving, illegal drugs, & unprotected sex.) Basically, the only way to convince your parents that this person is ok, will be to have them get enough exposure to him that they will trust his judgement. The facial piercings are just a obstacle that he will have to overcome in thier eyes. You personally will not be able to convince them otherwise, and in trying to convince them you might even make them more paranoid about it!
2007-01-12 12:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by jmtutin 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's just they way parents are appearnace doesn't make anyone a bad person. Like they say never judge a book by its cover.
2007-01-12 12:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Jessica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no matter what you say or do nothing will change you Mom's view point. One day when you have a daughter and she brings home a boy even if he is just a friend. you will understand! But you won't until that day comes.
2007-01-12 12:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Richard W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is NO need to explain. She has her hangups and your opinion is not going to change her opinion so I would just leave it alone and enjoy your friendships. Oh, but tell your mother that even sheeps that look like sheeps can be wolves.
2007-01-12 12:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋