How can I make myself more attractive?

Question

I have always had this feeling that I am fundamentally un-sexy in some way and have always wondered what I am doing wrong.

I didn't have sex until I was 20 and only then because I talked the guy involved into it.

I'm slim and I get out and do lots of things. I'm not shy. What do men find attractive? Is it anything that I can do?

Answer 1

I think maybe you take yourself too seriously. Number one, there is probably nothing wrong with you tht really needs fixing. You should give yourself the right to be only human. It's okay to not be attractive, as the idea is relative anyway. I'm a very good-looking man and the women I really like don't seem to want anything to do with me most of the time.

Try to be comfortable just being you... looking the way you look, liking the things you like, and having the taste you have. You may not be Angelina Jolie, but who is? Figure out your finest qualities and let 'em shine. If you have long legs, wear loose-fitting slacks. If you have short legs, wear short skirts. You know... make it work.

Answer 2

You're not shy? But you are insecure...

It's a vicious circle, hun. As I always say, the most attractive quality in a woman is confidence, and men always like confident women. But how do you get confidence? A make-over? therapy? Diet? Make-up? Hair style? And yet all those things are largely insignificant to men.

Have you thought that you are not the "cold pull" type? Maybe you will get to know someone at work or a friend of a friend, who will fall for the person you are, rather than what you look like.

Ask 50 people what "sexy" is, and you'll get 50 answers, so how are you supposed to become all "things" for all men? If you are you, and you are confident, you'll be sexy.

Answer 3

To me the most attractive thing in any female is self confidence and a believe that they are comfortable in their skin. It does not matter the size, colour or physical ability providing they are real and not trying to represent anything other then the real person they are it is cool. People can try and spend lots of money on makeup and/or plastic surgeries to try and become more attractive but a lot of time it is for not. The most attractive thing to this man anyway is an air of confidence by a woman in her walk, the way that she talks and generally in how she lives her live. Believe in yourself and show this to the world. Good luck and hope that this advice was at a least a little helpful.

Answer 4

So what if you didn't have sex until 20?.. you said also that you are not shy, listen i know a lot of women who do not really like themselves cause no guy has ever told them and they are waiting to get noticed and at the same i know not so beautiful women and they are saturated with confidence and men like them for who they are.

You need to be more confident and you don't need a guy to feel attractive cuz men would find any woman attractive based on personal tastes and fancies but for the record, don't dress too revealing cuz that would make you look too easy, dress with style and confidence, smile more and be yourself, talk to men anywhere you go but stay away from the freaks okay...well thatz tips for you okay and i hope it really helps

remember those tips and get confidence :)

Answer 5

Maybe you're looking at the wrong men! I think every girl (and guy) feels like this at times, and try to kid ourselves that new lingerie etc (although always nice) will work and transform us into a new wildly attractive person to others. I guess the key is to be genuine with people, show them your true emotions and be genuinely interested in everyone you meet (yes, i know this is a very girly, airy fairy answer but i still think that an lively, interested and genuine attitude works. maybe you are sending off negative signals because you feel rubbish about yourself. Research (somewhere!) has shown that those people who rate themselves as attractive - even if objectively they're not - will be seen as more attractive by men. It's all about self-confidence and i am sure that you will find it).

Answer 6

well- what kind of clothes do you wear?? you might be slim but if you wear all the wrong clothes they can be the problem. Depending on what you wear is the kind of guy you will attract. If you want to just have fun and go out with whoever wear sexy clothes, short skirts or whatever but if you want someone more serious- wear something more sophisticated and conservative. Also- it has alot to do with how much make up you put on- what your hair looks like etc. At least for the physical part. But- it all comes down to what kind of guy you like and want to attract.

Answer 7

For one, I can see you consider yourself a smart blonde. That tells me that you are one that goes out of your way to prove stereotypes wrong. Who cares if you are blonde, everyone knows it doesn't mean you are stupid. I bet you also fight submissive woman stereotype as well. Which makes you seem a little too strong, self sufficing and hard headed for a man to even try with you. Just relax, be yourself and have fun with life. Don't worry about stuff too much and enjoy your time here. It is much easier to approach a girl that is having fun with life and is easy going than a girl that automatically pulls the blazing guns for woman progression. Those battles were already fought, stop flogging the horse after it's dead.

Answer 8

Unfortunately there is a proportion of society that is preoccupied with how they and everybody else looks and i don't think we should even try to change these views.I think the most important thing you can do is work on yourself from within and also on the outside as you say that what you look like on the outside is making you unhappy.Go for a spa and beauty treatment that would make you feel good on the outside and the inside.maybe you have a close male friend who you can ask ?

Answer 9

Is that abt sex or relationship? You don't have to change yourself. Be yourself and let guys find you and fall in you! Men find attractive by their own interests. There are nothing for you can do but you can keep go out all the times, meet more people.

Answer 10

Go to a hairsylist...let them give you a cut...they think would look good on you. Take a friend ( w/great style )shopping...let them pick out a new outfit for you. Treat yourself to a day at the spa. (pedicure, manicure, facial & massage). Buy or check out from the library a romance novel...ask for a recommendation. Go to a really neat social cafe' or coffee shop. Bring your book. Smile alot. See what happens. I bet you feel mysterious, attractive..and the adventure alone will be challenging, yet fun!