My boyfriend is very lovely and it is a privilege to be his girlfriend and fun to be with him. I just can help feeling like I'm not pulling my weight in the relationship. I don't know what he sees in me or what I should be doing for him. If I ask him why he's with me he just laughs and says I'll understand one day.
I don't get it. I don't think that I do anything for him that he couldn't get from lots of younger, prettier, less insecure and generally more chilled out women. This is probably all in my head. How do I stop feeling so useless?
2007-01-12 04:02:25 · 12 answers · asked by SmartBlonde 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you are in love you do not see what they could give you because in your eyes they are perfect. If you were different then he probably wouldn't be going out with you.
The most you can give him is you, exactly as you are.
2007-01-12 04:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by without.question 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you could do more in the relationship than take the initiative and do more. Understand that he doesn't need that from you but that you are doing it to make yourself happier and more secure. Also, try to get it through your head that however great this man is he chose you to be with and that must make you pretty special. Try not to be so hard on yourself. And don't get paranoid about it. Use your creativity to do romantic things or just go out of your way to do something nice for him, even if its just getting him Pepsi out of the fridge so he doesn't have to walk across the room. It's really the little things that make a big difference.
2007-01-12 04:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Using the word "privilege" means that you are in awe of your boyfriend and i am not entirely sure this is a healthy situation to be in.This can be a huge problem later if you do not deal with this now.Your boyfriend is with you because of you, don't read into it or over analyse it cuz it will drive you mad and maybe a wedge between you and your boyfriend.Try some counselling i think this would be of a big help , it will give you the chance to talk about your feelings to someone neutral who can give you some help with looking at your situation in a more positive light.
2007-01-12 09:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has choosen to be with you so don't worry about all the other women in the world, don't compare. You're a special and unique human being there isn't another person like you in the whole world. Make a list of all your good points, qualities etc and you'll soon see why he is with you honey x
2007-01-12 06:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally relate to you!! All I can say is what I tell myself : "If he didn't want to be with you, then he wouldn't be", obviously our guys feel the same way about us as we do them, hence boyfriend and girlfriend...
I would just try to focus on your positive aspects and know that he sees something in you that you may not see. None the less though, he is with you and happy to be with you, so take advantage of a great relationship and see what becomes of it.
good luck!!
2007-01-12 04:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by steffie ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but if you feel he can do better than you, to the degree that you feel uncomfortable... I don't think you should be with the guy. That's just me. My sister is seeing someone who thinks she can do better than him and he's right. She can and she should.
If you don't know what he sees in you or why he wants you, and you want to stay in the relationship, you'd better find these things out soon. Tell him you need to know, you don't want to waste your time, and you want to save yourself from a broken heart... if at all possible.
2007-01-12 04:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
somebody bad made you feel useless, you have to deal with that
list your good qualities, make a mantra of them, it might help
or get a close friend to make a list for you if you can't
people like each other usually cuz they balance each other in some ways, opposites attract, its true
2007-01-12 04:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
count yourself lucky you have such a lovely bf,your a very lucky gal.n stop bein so insecure,he loves you for you jus accept that n b happy.
2007-01-12 04:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant ...... you are obviously bating well above your average...and scared that he is going to leave you.... for a younger model....
Just have to deal with it..... after all you are a smart blonde....although i think that is a contradiction in terms....
2007-01-12 04:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg dont be so silly, and i noticed your other question about how to look more attractive. drop this attitude, you probably deserve him as much as he does you. you dont want to push him away, be yourself and dont badger him. enjoy your relationship with eachother and try to build your confidence up a bit.
2007-01-12 04:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋