my ex broke up with me 3months ago, it was my fault i was needy, she wanted to stay freinds i treid to win her back many times i rang her and told her how feel...eventually i got over that,, so as soon as i stopped calling her ,she started calling me, and staying on the phone for ages i just kept cool i didnt mention anything bout love or anything.. then she asked me to go for a drink with her so idid we ended up in a club and she was really flirty with me, kissing my neck holding my hand n stuff the next day she said she just wants to be freinds, a week later(new years eve) i was out in a bar she was there too. iwalked outside for a smoked and i saw her kissin another guy then she saw me and she stopped kissing him, i didnt talk to her for a few days even though she was txtin me saying sorry n trying to call me... i got over that, i called her and said sorry for over reacting, i esaid i cant stop you, she said sorry for hurting me.. she said can we start over as freinds... i said i need time to think, i txted her the next day and said i still care bout you n id rather have you as a freind than have you as nothing, she txt back, saying that i cant be her freind and not be her freind whenever i feel like it, i just said fair enough, an hour later she called she sounded like she was crying and she was saying sorry for giving out to me.. i said its ok, so we are just freinds now, but if she really wants to stay freinds, y does she txt me, e mail me, call me everying day????
what do you think??
2007-01-12 04:00:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she just wants some sort of relationship with you that would make her feel the way she used to with you...
It's like she wants to be with you but she's scared for some reason...
2007-01-12 04:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you need to ask her what she really feels. You need to get it out of her, she is really putting you through a hard time. You deserve better. If you care about her as more than a friend, tell her. If just being friends is good with you, tell her that you two can't stay friends if this is the way she's going to treat you. You seem to know how you feel, but you don't have to be dragged around just because she's shaky and confused about hers. Know that you deserve the best for yourself, and if this girl is treating you like dirt and walking all over you, get up and go find someone deserving of your love.
Good luck.
2007-01-12 04:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. They can and do deport moms. You'll be actually be left keeping the child. I'd prefer to suppose that you're planning a baby considering you ought to be a family ceaselessly, and no longer simply as a form of flesh and blood visa - so why now not just get married? She would then must return to Taiwan and follow for everlasting entry as your partner, which they are more likely to provide seeing that you could have a little one together. Good luck!
2016-08-10 11:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by gaudioso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's NUTS!
One of the most reliable warning signs of women who are nuts is that they disrespect and devalue you when you are available but want you desperately when you are not. This love/hate dynamic is similar to what you see in people with borderline personality disorder. Many times, you see similar behavior from women with eating disorders. Does she have one? She probably does.
These women are completely unstable and are only interested in living a life that is screwed up. They will manipulate you into being a part of that, if you aren't careful. Manipulate is the key word here. These women are extremely manipulative. Think back to how many times she manipulated you into doing something you didn't want to or that was not cool. I bet the list is pretty extensive.
Love/hate dynamics in a relationship cause normal people to become obsessive, over time, so be very careful of that. Your best bet is to immediately break off all contact with her and go get one of the 90% of women who are normal human beings.
2007-01-12 04:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so sure.. but I would say no, she just doesnt really wanna be friends, cause she doesnt even know what she wants.
As far as you have written, she seems a little dangerous, she is playing and loves to play with your feelings cause she knows you still care no matter what and deep inside she enjoys that feeling, Im telling you this cause I once was that type of girl, its a double game, be nice and softy to know I have you.. and be nasty and make you jealous cause I like hurting you and feel important cause you still care about me.
Stay away from her, if you had a chance as a couple it would have happened now, and true, really true friendship happens after you have forgotten eachother and moved on with your lives.
Disappear from her, dont take her calls, dont see her, give yourself your time and space to get over this girl and move on.
good luck
2007-01-12 04:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by luisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she hasn't really got any control over her hormones/emotions. A lot of "girls", when they reach puberty are in "heat" but really do not have the understanding of what love is. All they understand is that they feel good kissing, fondling, or whatever.
When their needs are satisfied, then they only want to be friends; but of course, like any fire, it burns to a storm again and you run into the same thing.
My advice is to only be her friend and to find a more mature female who can dedicate her lovely only to you. There is nothing wrong with you being "needy." You just want to bond with a girl and be happy. There are girls like that. Your ex is a good person, but not mature enough to be your girl. I don't think she is ready to be with a single man. She is probably in that "emotions and hormones out of control" stage and needs excessive reassurance from guys to affirm that she is worthy being lusted after.
When she is 30 or even 40, she'll look back on you fondly and laugh to herself and then hit herself for being so mature and for being such a tease.
Let her go and make it your resolution to be only her friend and not to hold her hands, kiss her or love her that way again.
If you don't do this, she will continue to manipulate you and you will learn nothing and be blind of another girl who is probably more compatible to you.
2007-01-12 04:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's over you but she doesn't want to let you out of her life either. She doesn't want a relationship with you and yet she doesn't want to let you go completely. It'd probably be for the best if you don't stay friends with her. If this keeps up, you're going to be really hurt in the end. Just tell her no more and let it end and then go on. Good luck.
2007-01-12 04:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants to have contol of you. She thinks that if she strings you along she can have her cake and eat it too. There is nothing wrong with staying in touch or even hanging out, but anything more is to much. Either your friends or your lovers, or your nothing. Dont let her turn you into a booty call.
2007-01-12 04:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by gibs_neil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she does just want to be friends. I talk to my ex every day. he is one of my best friends and why shouldnt he be we know eachother better then anyone. Im sure she still cares about you and just wants to stay close with you. if a relationship didnt work it didnt work sometimes people are better as friends.
2007-01-12 04:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by browneyedncrazy119 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she may have a feelings for u,but doesnt want ne 1 to kno.maybe just give her some time and she will ask u out again it just in matter of time
2007-01-12 04:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lady D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋