Me And My Girlfriend Have Just Split..?

Question

Last Saturday, i was in a nightclub and my girlfriend cheated on me with someone i work with, understandably she was out of her face but still, i hit him and then hit him with a glass, which im not proud of at all but it shows how much i care for her

Anyway i dumped her there and then, but earlier on in the evening we were talking about going on holiday at the end of January to Gibralter and when i move away, her coming to see me 4 days a week! surprising! then she acts like that!

Over the last few days weve met up and just talked and on one of these occasions whilst she was hugging me she just burst into tears and said im soo sorry..that apparently she didnt want a relationship and was going to finish me soon after the incident but since then she went to hold my hand for about 5 seconds today then pulled away then linked arms with me for a bit, then when i said goodbye she hugged me and kissed me on the cheek

Questions are A) should i try and get back with her and b) does she

Let me point out im 18 and talking about when i go to Uni she will come and see me..

And im not proud of what i did, noone expected it from me, if it was someone i didnt care about i wouldnt of done it, but i was so annoyed at the time, not drunk as such either, but it takes 2 to tango! wasnt just her fault and i would never hit a girl

Answer 1

NO.

you ever tasted warmed over soup?
not that good right,..

well that is exactly how this will end up,..you can never go back ,..friend MOVE FORWARD!

Answer 2

First of all, no excuse for her getting so drunk she made a life-altering decision without consideration for the effect it would have on your relationship. Getting drunk was a choice. She was not a victim to her choice.

For you to hit him, especially with a glass, does not show how much you care for her, but only that you have minimal control over your temper. Don't be caught off if he presses assault charges. The way you're explaining it doesn't even sound like she cheated by sleeping with him, but perhaps only by flirting with him because I'm assuming if you're hitting him with a glass you were still in the club at the time.

Once you dump a person, any plans you had to go on holiday are automatically cancelled... and her getting drunk and smooching it up with another fellow has nothing to do with plans you made for her to travel 4 days a week to see you when she was sober. Apples... oranges.

She was already planning to break up with you because she didn't want a relationship... so in her mind you guys weren't really together any more anyway. It was probably you moving that made her feel that it just wasn't going to work out and she just didn't want to tell you at that point.

Question A of trying to get back together with her is absurd. Uh... NO. She was planning to end the relationship, started partying with another guy (who you have to face each day at work!) before bothering to notify you of this decision and you are moving. I'm not hearing that any of these facts have changed.

Question B extended beyond your limit, so don't know what that was, but I'd say to answer the rest of your curiousities, just because she has some feelings of affection for you and regrets her behavior does NOT mean she wants to get back with you in any event. Sorry... it appears that she's being kind to someone she's a bit finished with.

Answer 3

Honey, I am so sorry. i know this is very painful.

To an unbiased person however, it is obvious that this relationship will not work out. The best thing is to make a clean break . . for your own good.

It is possible that she may know it is best for her to end the relationship, but it is still hard for her to do because she still cares for you somewhat and remembers good times you had. It is even possible that once you start to move on with your life without her, she will try to come back with you. But that will not last either, so don't waste anymore time and energy. Grieve, be sad, then go find someone else.

I know this is not what you are hoping to hear, but i am old, trust me. And I have been on both sides of this sad, but common, story.

I wish you happiness.

Answer 4

Why would you pursue someone who first off has told you she does not one a relationship with you?....second why would you want someone who has proved she will cheat if she hasn't gotten what she wants from you or your relationship? Sounds to me like you both have some growing up to do....acting out in a violent fashion doesn't prove how much you care for her but how much you cannot control your temper under extreme emotion deress. I would say no do not persue her, but take time to examine what it is you are seeking .... sounds as though the two of you might be more suited as friends. For any relationship to work there must be two willing partners to me it sounds like she has told you she wasn't interested in a relationship....Chalk this one up as a learning lesson .... if you can salvage a friendship do so, sounds like that is more what she was saying with the apology, hug, and kiss on the cheek, Good luck to you, and best wishes.

Answer 5

Just be friends for awhile. If she is someone you like being with without the pressure of a romance, then maybe you have a shot at being happy together (once she grows up a bit). If you realize that she just isn't the kind of friend that you would want, then you she wouldn't make a good girlfriend or wife either. If you want a long term relationship, you need to be friends outside the bedroom.

Answer 6

First you need to explain on how she cheated on you especially if you were right there...If your just talking about a dance or a kiss or something like that and she was really drunk and you think she is sincere then maybe you should give her another chance. Another word of advice, if you do give it a chance both of you get off the booze because all it does is mess up your life

Answer 7

You have nothing to gain by staying with this girl.


My advise is to stay away from her as much as possible. Keep in mind that if you do end up together again, it'll be a lot easier for her to cheat on you again.

From what I read she doesn't sound like a person I would trust, and if you don't have trust, you shouldn't have a relationship.

Good luck, my friend

Answer 8

It depends on how long you've known her. If she is really sincere and seems very honest about her feelings towards you then give her a second chance. But if you feel that she might do it again although she says she sorry then just leave her alone. I've been through this before and its very difficult to let someone go after you've known them for sometime and then they just cheat on you. Go for what you think is best for you and your relationship with her.

Answer 9

NO WAY she cheated not shes not loyal shes erractic you dont wan to be in a relationship wih someone like that ask yourself this
1) could you marry her knowing that 2)could you have kids with her knowing that it could be a possiblity that its not your yours
with that it mind your thinking your probably not even thinking about that if not then you should just be happy and having fun in a relationship now if you dont see a future in something then just have fun if you cant even have that and dealing with cheating its not worth it love..say by bye now!

Answer 10

shes just playing games,
if you want to save yourself some heart ache i would leave her behind

she already made you hit a guy.. i mean what a poor judgement to do that.. okay she didnt make you hit a guy, but she already made you realy angry so you hit someone..

does that really sound like someone you want to be with?>

chances are,, the same thing will happen soon... i would walk away

Answer 11

If you know that she won't cheat on you again and she is ready to have a comiment to you and you only then i say try again but if she doesn't want to comiment to you and you only then I say move but I believe in second chances but only if the one who cheated is ready to be comimented to the person who they cheated on and you know she won't do it again. I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater because that's not true.