my boyfriend is sometimes mean to me but everytime i get upset he says hes just joking. it still bother me though and i dont think he understands that.
2007-01-12 03:51:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he doesn't understand that, he's an idiot. If you really aren't being too sensitive (some good-natured picking on is fun) and he is being mean, and keeps doing it, it would make me think that he might really be mean and just say he's joking to get out of you being mad at him.
In your shoes, I would tell him, in no uncertain terms, exactly what he is saying that is upsetting you. If he does it again, say OUCH! and tell him that hurt. He should back off.
Remember that if it bothers you, it IS a problem, whether he thinks it is or not. If he's too much of an idiot to quit, drop him. You need loving support, not put downs because someone's too lame to actually come up with something to joke about without harming others.
2007-01-12 03:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may really be joking. People have different types of sense of humor and his joking may not be your joking. He doesn't understand this because he only sees himself and doesn't understand that what he does is not cool. I'm wondering what is considered "mean" to you. You say he's mean but you don't give examples. It could be something little and you blow it out of proportion. Either way, sit him down and have a serious talk with him. Let him realize how it's hurting you and ask him how he'd feel if you said something mean about him in a joking way. Good luck.
2007-01-12 04:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 01:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by esannason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My last boyfriend was like that, and this is what I figured out; if he thinks that being mean, but in a joking way, is funny and you don't, then he's probably a little immature for you, well that was my experience with that.
2007-01-12 03:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Goodbye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So make sure he understands it. It's not a joke and if you don't find it funny, he needs to quit. If he doesn't know the proper way to treat others, then perhaps you two aren't a good match.
2007-01-12 03:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's being an ****. he's trying to be dominate and that's his way of showing domination in the reklationship. Be mean to him back, don't just sit there and take his bulls**t. Force him to show you the respect you deserve. Don't let him verbally push you around anymore. Trust me, it is very unhealthy for any relationship.
2007-01-12 03:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got the same problem with this guy i like... then i get all angry at him, and he's like i'm sorry, i'm just joking! and stuff but ugh.. hey, atleast i no now i'm not the only one. i can't really help, sorry.
2007-01-12 03:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes sadistic, not it is not right. dont take that from him.
2007-01-12 03:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋