all the good ones seem to be taken or totally invisable and I can't find them. Why the heck can't a guy like me for me. I am nice, very generous, feist at times though haha, I love god, I love my family, really outgoing..... I am in shape and care about myself, not to mention I am pretty inside and out (not conceided just confident).... if I can see this why can't a guy see this is me. All I seem to be is a piece of meat and I am sick of it. I hate this.
2007-01-12 03:50:42 · 25 answers · asked by lil_troublemaker1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i meant to type fiesty**
2007-01-12 04:06:19 · update #1
I recall a famous story entitled, "A Good Man Is Hard to Find." I think your experience is valid and commonplace. A lot of guys DO act like jerks and let their little brain rule their big brain.
My advice, don't have anything to do with them. I like your spirit of self-worth. Don't lose it! You DO deserve better!
The good news is that there are lots of great guys out there, even though you haven't met many single ones yet. You may have to broaden the scope of your search...show up at new activities, groups, etc. The main thing is BE YOURSELF, and BE PATIENT. My best friend refused to get married for 19 years, and then met the love of her life. She's been happily married for the last 11 years. Hopefully, it won't take you that long, but DON'T SETTLE. Just keep meeting guys and making friends. When you find out one of them is a jerk, scratch him off your list.
2007-01-12 04:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say that a nice guy like you are looking for probably is not going to be too religious and that might be a problem with you and him eventually. Unless he was born and raised into being a god first type of dude then he will only be religious after he had done some really terrible things that if you found out might not be able to accept fully. I mean, I fit the mold you are saying and appreciate everything god has done for me but I don't do the church thing.
2007-01-12 11:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you are treating your self like a piece of meat they will too. People in general always look at the outside first if you look like a playboy model they expecting a playboy model. The job of the hunter "guy" is too hunt and killl and move on. The job of the "hunted" is to be a prize beyond what they have ever had before. If you respect yourself a guy will respect you. Maybe you think everyone is happy all around you that could all be a lie. People are happier outside than inside. If you would stop comparing yourself....you will see what is right in front of you .
2007-01-12 11:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by Stranger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's sounds like you have a lot going on, but that you may lack a little self esteem. People like that get used a lot. You should spend time with guys you respect and spend time doing things that you're good at. I think you should be happy as you are. And believe me, it's better to be alone than to be in a bad relationship just for the sake of being in one.
2007-01-12 11:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Julie, I'm an older guy and have watched the culture migrate to where we are today. There is an incredible focus on "me" today. "How cheap, how fast, how quick can I get everything for me. If it doesn't benefit me, why do I bother." Unfortunately, we are gradually loosing the concepts of encouraging, loving, nurturing, protecting, supporting, forgiving, and sacrificing for each other. If you lower your standards, you will indeed find a man to meet them. Continue to pray for God to bring that special man that you will love and grow old with TOGETHER. Never give up!
2007-01-12 12:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by ipnops 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im with the bones guy. the only way you know about being treated like a piece of meat is b/c you are one. sounds like your too much an easy lay. maybe you should actually go with the i love God thing, which is wonderful and start holding out. start believing in "waiting" and you'll find that those dogs looking for a "bone" are weeded out and the nice guys will find you.
2007-01-12 12:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by maximus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A large percentage of today's women act like whores. Today's men don't need to treat women with more respect than that because they can get all the sex they want from whores.
Women need to stop acting like whores, so men will have to start acting like men instead of teenage boys.
Both sides need to be more mature.
Sorry, but there is no immediate solution to this, it's a societal/systemic problem. Either you get lucky with a decent man or you don't.
No miraculous solution here. Not everyone ends up happy.
2007-01-12 11:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by askthepizzaguy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that we're always in a hurry for everything and you don't just want a good man you want a good man NOW. Don't dispare, there are great guys out there and if you are really as beautiful on the inside and out as you describe I'd suggest that you stop trying to find a good man and let a good man find you. Keep your head up and good luck!
2007-01-12 11:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Leohades 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be patient and you will find what you seek! The available "goods ones" are only invisible because women have a tendency to ignore them. Most women are only looking for the "bad boys".
2007-01-12 11:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm now there was something about Mary; but what was it? Oh ya thats right ..she was a golfer...and didnt she meet just the sweetest guy while hitting balls on the driveing range.
2007-01-12 12:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by sea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋