I have a very nice boyfriend, we get on well have good sex and have lots of activities in common. He is a little younger than I am and he might want to settle down & get married or even want kids some day. I want to travel and live all over the world. I am not sure that these two life-visions are compatible. He knows that I feel this way. I'm 31 he is 27.
Some people tell me to just enjoy the relationship as it is great right now, but I am worried that we are setting ourselves up for heartbreak in the future and it feels irresponsible not to worry about this.
2007-01-12 03:45:09 · 16 answers · asked by SmartBlonde 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have an idea of when you might end up changing courses in life so at least you know that one day you may end the relationship but why not just go with the flow and enjoy it whilst it is good? If you do end up travelling and you take the risk of leaving him this does not mean that when you come back you may both be single and could pick up where you left off right? Or you may find that you want to settle down with him and then incorporate the travelling and having kids with each other. There is no point in ruining something good now for something that may or may not happen in the future. Go with it and when the time comes, you may find that you two fit together and can do everything you both want together.
2007-01-12 04:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i dont plan too far ahead in anything normally and i have a 7yr old and live with my bloke! its sensible to plan a little in advance but who wants to map out the rest of your lives? seriously though i think you need to talk about your life goals with him, you never know if he decides to travel with you for a couple of years when you get back you might decide you're ready for settling down and kids but if you're not sure what his plans are then odds on he has no idea where your life goals are either! i know it sounds like planning but its not its sorting things out so you both know where you stand and if your goals aren't ultimately compatable then you can both just enjoy what you have right now with no(hopefully) major heartache when you go your own ways and the flip side is you never know you might have him pegged wrong and your goals are the same?!!!???
good luck hun! i do hope it works out!
xx
2007-01-12 04:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by pinkjessie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you two discussed this whatsoever? If the answer is no, I would say yes definatly talk it over. even if it's in mild table conversation form it is something to ponder over. perhaps your life goals will change and fuse together and you two can make it into the long run? or maybe opposites really DO attract and this is just fun for now. either way, enjoy yourself, enjoy your relationship.... but care enough about it to atleast discuss the matter at hand.
best of luck!!!
2007-01-12 03:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by el camino 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just see how things pan out there is enough to worry about with day to day living never mind worrying about what may or may not happen in the future. What will be will be, enjoy the moment, have fun and see what happens
2007-01-12 03:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow and see what happens. You'll know when the time comes if he's the right one for you and then you'll both have to compromise something if you want to stay together. If neither of you are prepared to make a compromise, then you're obviously not right for each other. Doens't mean you can't have fun being together now though.
2007-01-12 03:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a good idea to plan ahead a little, but worrying actually does no good at all. Does he know what you want to do? You say he might want to settle down...... does he though?
Dont give up your dreams - just make sure he knows about them.
2007-01-12 03:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He might..."??? Do you not know? Have you not asked if he wants kids and stuff?
Lets be honest, you're 31, and that is the wrong side of healthy to be looking to have your first child. Yes all your bits work, but as you get older, the risks of deformity get higher, so If I was with a 31 year old woman, I'd have brought this up, if it was important to me, as the clock is ticking.
2007-01-12 03:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should enjoy the relationship but also have goals for the future. why be in a relationship and you dont see a future in it.
2007-01-12 03:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by vandykeprincess06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinbk in any relationship, you need to have goals. If you don't and just let thinks happen, the relationship could get stale...
2007-01-12 04:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by Nathan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might recieve 1000 answers to this question but none of them will be right. The only right answer is the one you and your boyfriend conclude, talk to him about it.
2007-01-12 03:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋