I know it's sad, but i've found that this is sometimes the case with me. No matter how fun single life can be, it definitely get's lonely sometimes. It's nice having someone to go to the movies and out to dinner with...and not having to worry about finding a date to different parties, and other events. Have any of you ever held on to a relationship that you knew was going nowhere, and wasn't right for you, just so you didn't have to go back to being single?
2007-01-12 03:44:58 · 25 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's called co-dependence and it is wrong
2007-01-12 03:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I haven't done that. However I have stayed in relationships for longer then I should have because I didn't realize the fizz was gone. But as soon as I realized it wasn't right for me and I wasn't happy any more... I ended it. There's no point in them wasting your time, or wasting their time either. If you not meant to be together, then every day you spend together is a missed opportunity to find your TRUE partner. You can't meet new people while your in a relationship. So cut the strings.... then no one gets hurt, and in the end your both better of for it. Personally, I'd rather be single and lonely, then in a relationship and unhappy.
And as for the not having a date, etc... get some guy friends! Ones that are fun to be around, and would come with you to events when the occasion calls for it!
2007-01-12 05:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by CEP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt call your relationship borring if you go out to movies, dinners, events and all that. Maybe you meant relationship when you kind of having fun but its not complete because you know you are not into him like that? Imagine if he feels the same way about your relationship? OMG that would be something funny. Maybe you should stop worrying about being single, stop wasting each other time, get yourself some homegirls to go out with, have your movies, dinners and parties where you can find yourself a real man that can fullfill all your dreams in a perfect relationship that is not borring or wrong. I mean hit me or kick me if i am wrong....i am sorry but there is no other answer to this. I wish i was in your area or something to get you out on girls night, have some real fun at strip club or lounge and hook you up with some fine *** man that can make you feel dizzy in your head from hapiness.....;)?
2007-01-12 03:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl the longer you hold on to a boring, wrong relationship that isn't going nowhere the longer your going to have to wait to find the person that makes you laugh, and your 100% feel right with. also put yourself in your loved ones shoes. What if he felt the same way about you, how would you feel? Imagine him holding back the feelings and not letting you know. Your leading him on, and you should communicate with him and tell him how you feel. I don't know how long both of you have been dating, but the longer you wait the harder it will be to let go of him, because your feelings for him will be strong, and you will care for him more. I don't know if your living with him, but if you are your doing him wrong. I sincerely want to help you out on this, because i personally have been through it. If you feel in your heart that hes not the one for you, then don't waste his time, or yours. Find a friend to be with to go to parties, and other events. don't hurt his feelings or yours.
sincerly mari:)
2007-01-12 04:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many many people do that - but I believe that no relationship is better than a bad relationship. I've seen so many people living miserable lives in bad relationships and I just pointed out to them that I didn't have those issues being single and that unless I end up in a great relationship, I will be staying single forever.
2007-01-12 03:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by lifesajoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I havent done that- but I met my hubby in 10th grade in highschool and we have been together 22 yrs. now! Sure at times its more like he is my SAFETY ZONE. That as long as Im home with him Im safe and secure and have no worries! Im sure alot of people stay together just out of companionship. But try to spice it up girl! Greet him at the door naked with a bottle of chocolate syrup and whip cream! Invite him to a candle lit bubble bath for two! But no u r not the only one who has done it. I know my sister was married 3 years and wanted a divorce after 6 months of it but stayed because she didnt want to be alone. Life is WAY too short to stay somewhere that there is no love! We only live once- so always always go and take the chance on love!
2007-01-12 03:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortuntly yes i have..and i wouldnt necessarily say i regret it, because i try not to regret things in life, but i would say that i would never do it again. even though it may get lonely at times, you are really missing out on alot of fun things in life. being lonely eventually goes away, but being stuck in an unhappy relationship stays with you intil you get out...i would try giving yourself a little more credit, because you are a strong person and you dont need to be with anyone..that is until you find the one that you LOVE spending your time with..like I have finally found. good luck and dont look back one day and wish you had more free time
2007-01-12 03:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in one right now. The guys great, head over heels about me too, treats me great but he is so freakin boring! I know everything he is going to say, everything he is going to do, everytime. We've only been together 8 months and I am so bored of him but I don't really have any reason to leave him, ok maybe the fact he cant keep a job, but he's such a sweet guy and good lucking but his dullness actually is starting to piss me off! But how do you break up with somebody because their boring? I wish I could!
2007-01-12 03:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure does get lonely, but that's where being happy with yourself comes in. If you aren't happy with who you are, then just having someone else around won't cure the problem. It will only put a band-aid on it..... Search yourself and find out why you aren't happy with the person of you. Once you get to the bottom of that, you will find lonliness much easier to handle. Good luck honey, and there are many of us who sympathize with you!
2007-01-12 03:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley, absolutely. I have stayed just to keep from being lonely. Sad but true, wrong but done it anyways. Still in one as a matter of fact.
Really hard to get out of because you love them, just no in love with them.
2007-01-12 03:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and you should not have to either get yourself a dog it is a womans best friend it wont cuss you talk back to you and make you cry you can pet it on the head and keep going and when you go out and come home just look how it wags its tail when you open the door cause it is always glad to see you
2007-01-12 03:52:13 · answer #11 · answered by poptart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋