He keeps bring up past guys in which I had relationships with. He thinks I mess around often. He has called me a whore, slut, *****, etc. and says that I disrespect our relationship. Ha! Can you convince someone of not cheating if the believe whole-heartedly that you have? We have been together for 4 years now. I am getting very anxious and annoyed. Please help. Thanks.
2007-01-12 03:27:38 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he thinks that and says those things to you then your relationship is doomed ... it will never work, leave him
2007-01-12 03:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Chris G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you really didn't cheat on him and your concious is clean, then why are you still with him. Is it because you have been in a relationship for 4 years now and you don't want to loose him. Well my advise to you is to leave him because why would you let him call you a whore and a lot other names? Are you getting used to it that you just lower yourself like that. I am sorry, but you do deserve better. You deserve a real guy who is willing to appreciate you, respect you, confort you and understand you, as you with him also. You deserve to respect yourself also. I believe he is probly cheating on you himself. He blames you of cheating because if he's cheating, he thinks you might be doing it too. Think about it. Are you willing to marry this guy who treats you like that? Do you think it will go away? Well it won't. So start thinking where you want your relationship to go or what type of man do want to be your husband and father of your children. If you already have children, don't worry about it there are places where you can get help for yourself and a get a job that pays good for yourself and kids. Good luck
2007-01-12 03:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you he is the one is doing it... Some people do that they acuse their partner that they are doing it when the cheater is the one that is acusing the non cheater....I do recommend it that you do move on far away from that person...You don't need to give him any explanation the why you don't want him around if the case is the you both share a place so move out as soons posible and please for any second believe him anything because he maybe will cry to you that he is sorry etc...Just move on and know that life is to short to live the way you living it most be miserble, don't matter how much you love a person you can't let them humiliate you...And that is what he is doing to you...You can't never change or make them believe you are not cheating when you are not doing it...
2007-01-12 03:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal for people who love you to call you names like that. I would get rid of him just based on that. Have you ever heard the expression "the guilty dog barks first". Maybe he's the one who is cheating and he can't deal with it so he wants to turn it around on you. An answer to your question...No, you won't be able to change his mind. If he truly, wholeheartedly believes you are cheating, there is nothing you can do. Why does he think you are cheating, what have you given him for him to suspect it? You need to find out and then answer all of his questions honestly and with detail. It's your only chance but I still think it won't do any good. 4 years is a long time and he should trust you if you have committed to him for that long.
2007-01-12 03:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he's pushing you away? Guys can be cowards when it comes to ending relationships. If their feeling have changed, and their just not in to it anymore and just have a general feeling of unhappiness, they don't know how to say that. So, he could be accusing you of something to start a fight, to push you away, so that you'll leave him (then he's not that bad guy). Either way... there is definetly a problem in the relationship and you need to address it head on. It won't work without trust, so he needs to either get over it and move on or terminate the realationship. Good luck to you guys! If its meant to be.. you'll work it out. If its not, then move on.
2007-01-12 03:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by CEP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone does this type of thing to you it's really because they have done this and they are doing this to you to make you feel bad. Hoping to take the focus off of his stupid A S S. He has cheated on you and he feels like the whore. You should dump him and get a better guy.
2007-01-12 03:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure. Why? Try to find out.
You can only tell him and show him your faithful. If he doesn't improve, give him an ultimatum and prepare for the worse.
Bottom line, he doesn't trust you. If you done something for him to be like that, try to re-assure him. Alot of times people are like that for no reason and it's from issues with themselves.
If things don't change, you will probably have to leave the relationship or be miserable.
2007-01-12 03:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him blunty that you have never cheated on him ever and never plan to. but if he keeps acting this way and wont trust you, you might plan to leave him. If you've been faithful this whole time, you deserve someone you is going to love you, not call you names. He is just paranoid, maybe a girl has cheated on him before and the wounds never healed. Tell him you love him and you would never do anything like that to hurt him. <3
2007-01-12 03:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur dating my ex lol,cos i had this exact same problem with him.mine ended in tears im sorry to say,if someone believes something so strongly then you cannot change their mind.and as for insulting you,id say he does not love you,if you have not done anything then he needs to grow up and realise whomever you messed about with in your past is just that..past and that it does not mean you are still doing it.do you really want a life time of false accusations and name calling?his prob played around himself and by blaming you his dealing with his guilt.id leave him hun,good luck x
2007-01-12 03:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start calling him names and accuse him of cheating, whether it be with past ex's or current flings, see how he likes it.....and go from there. Either way, it doesn't sound like this relationship is really working out for you.
2007-01-12 03:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by *apes* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably just a phase, and rooted in his own insecurities. I've gone through this and trust me he is probably not doing it to hurt you or your relationship... he is just worried about what past conduct says about future conduct. Make sure to be totally honest with him about everything, be willing to talk to him about whatever is bugging him... I would imagine that is mostly what he needs. Time heals all wounds as they say, and if you love him just be patient with him... thats what he needs. He probably doesn't think you're cheating by the way, but thinks that keeping you thinking he thinks you're cheating will stop you from cheating... I know its crazy logic, but again you're dealing with insecurities... its like a female who looks fine but thinks she looks fat in everything... we don't get to pick our insecurities, so give him a chance... and like I said honesty is SO important to getting past it
2007-01-12 03:33:43 · answer #11 · answered by flawed broadcast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋