Anyone who has ever dealt with a suicide, did they throw it out there often that they were contemplating it?

Question

Was it kept silent or did they say it repeatedly before anything happened?

Answer 1

It can happen either way. Some people talk about it and talk about it and then finally do it, and others don't say anything, but might give clues (giving away possesions, etc.) so you have to take both types of people seriously.

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Answer 2

I've had both experiences...both vocal and silent. Suicide is never an answer although I've heard of people who are in end-stage cancer who are suffering so terribly that they want to end their lives. I don't necessarily agree with this but until I've been in such horrible pain I honestly don't know how I'd handle that.

On the other hand, people who are suffering terrible mental anguish and want to end their lives can often give no indication that they're going to do something. They may feel that they need to work out everything on their own, or they are ashamed to admit how hopeless they feel.

Paradoxically, a large majority of people who attempt suicide don't really want to die; I've heard this again and again. They are suffering so much and their thinking is so mixed up that they just want to escape. I've had these feelings myself and while some people may become angry and harsh toward people with suicidal feelings the reality is that this issue is there and always needs to be addressed in our communities.

Rather than creating an atmosphere of shame and judgement (as I've even seen some mental health professionals do) it's best to reach out to those who feel suicidal and help them find ways to improve their lives so that this is never an option.

Answer 3

I used to have a friend who would talk about wanting to kill herself all the time, and it did get kinda hard to listen to, but I think the only reason why she wanted people to know she wanted to die was because she really just needed someone to show her they cared about her enough and she needed help and didn't know how to get it. I would talk her through it every time. And it seemed to help. She became a little dependent on me, but I did ask her to seek professional help too, cause I'm not a psychologist. She did. She hasn't attempted at all. She doesn't talk about it much either. Actually, she tells me that if it weren't for me just being there for her, or calling her back if she called and just showing that I cared, she might actually have done it. But she says she feels a lot better now.
I also had a friend that attempted, but never mentioned it or even lead you to believe she was depressed before hand. She hid her sadness very well, which actually scares me more than when a person does talk about it. She would always be laughing and smiling and making everyone else happy, but inside she really felt like crap. She got better, but has attempted again twice since. I haven't seen or heard from her in 3 years now. I hope she's okay.

Answer 4

Suicide is so sad, it is a long term solution to a short term problem.The cry for help not always comes before the loss.If anyone thinks thier life is worth nothing they should take 2 days to talk to everyone they love and ask that person what they mean to them.I know that there would be less suicides if they would just give people a chance to let them know that they do love them..Life has ups and downs and if you're not here you will miss a lot of memories that are waiting to be made.....

Answer 5

I do not talk about it. It's painful to remember being that desperate and depressed. It's hard for me to even say the words sometimes... I'm not sure why anyone would want to flaunt it. Unless they were only *saying* that they were suicidal for attention or something.

Trust me, from personal experience, seriously thinking about (having a plan) or attempting suicide is nothing you want to flaunt. It's a personal, very deep, very emotional thing. It takes such a mental toll on you, and is hard to describe.

Hope this helps!

Answer 6

I have dealt with both situations. My personal attempts were kept quite until after the fact. No one knew until I was in the ICU at the hospital. I thought I was dropping some hints, but the people around me did not pick up on any of them. I wasn't very direct.