6 years ago, I was with a friend at a party, and I got very drunk, expecting that she'd be there to drive me. But she left me there, where I only knew a few people, one of them being a guy I knew in high school, who was(I thought) a friend. I passed out, and woke up beside him. I never had any interest in him before, and he didn't use a condom, which I know if I'd been awake for it I would have made him use because I'm not on BC. I wound up being in a part of town I'm not familiar with and had no money for cab or bus since I'd left my purse in my friend's car. I tried calling my friend but she was sleeping and her step-mom wouldn't wake her up. I had to sit in his house with his room mates making fun of me until I could get someone to pick me up.
It was so long ago, and I didn't do the smart thing and press charges, and I don't even think he lives in the city anymore. I was an alcoholic at the time, and for 2 years after. I'm on the road to recovery and want to forget this, pls help!
2007-01-12 03:05:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don`t really know what to say except start by forgiving yourself. Even though you were drunk, it was not your fault. You might feel angry at the guy and his friends but it seems self-directed also. He had NO right to do what he did. You did not deserve to be used like that. Just like the first step to recovery from alcohol is saying "I am an alcoholic" try saying "I was raped". It will be hard but YOU CAN DO IT!
2007-01-12 03:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by fly7591 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't blame yourself. Someone may have given you a date rape drug. You were left by your friend. (Have you ever told her about this?) She's not a good friend.
You feel guilty because you didn't report it. Don't.
He's probably never thought twice about it. If he's out of town now, good!
One way to get over it is to realize atleast there were no consequences, like a pregnancy or an STD.
Keep reminding yourself you're not an alcoholic anymore so that can't happen to you again.
You're a stronger person now and wiser.
Pick your friend well.
Have you told anyone about this? If not, tell someone close to you. It's very cathartic to get it off your chest.
Good luck with your recovery.
2007-01-12 11:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for getting help. I don't know what you are doing for recovery, but I know in 12 step programs there are the 12 steps of recovery and you can heal from that with the help of others in the program. NA is very intense and you can definately heal from what happened; you probably won't ever forget about it but you can heal from it and move on, but you don't have to do it alone. Counseling can also help. Traumatic events like that need to be addressed in order for us to be free. Good luck with it. Thank god you aren't still doing that!!!
2007-01-12 11:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stop obsessing about it, then you haven't forgiven yourself or him. Suggest counselling would be a good route for you to follow.
2007-01-12 11:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends where you are but I believe that there are still options to pursue , as in maybe the statute of limitations has not run out on this crime.
2007-01-12 11:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Vincent W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋