I'm getting married in June 07 do i need to wait a little longer?

Question

I've known him for 2 years and he want to take it to the next level what do you all think. Is it to soon?

Answer 1

No thats wonderful. I am getting married in June this year too. I am so excited. I think it doesn't matter how long you have been together if you know you are ready to marry then go ahead. Good luck with the planning etc.

Answer 2

It could be too soon if you are not ready, not sure, have questions that need to be answered. You both should be ready and feel 100 %, because after you get married all kinds of changes will happen in many different areas. That's just part of the process. It works better if both of you want pretty much the same things, because as you live together you will branch off a little in your own directions. While doing these different things you need to stay close in love, close contact, and yet allow each other to grow in your own direction; but don't take things too extreme or you may grow apart. Always be and show concern of each others feelings during all of the good and bad times. It takes a lot of give and take, just try to keep it balanced out.
Be happy. When you have problems don't let them get out of control and pull you apart. There's nothing wrong with getting outside help if things get so bad you can't fix them. Good luck.

Answer 3

Do YOU think you need to wait?

I use the 6 month measure. You should be able to date a person for 6 months & know whether you like this person well enough to take it to the next level or end the relationship. As the relationship grows, you either fall in love or you don't. If you're not in love with this man, then I'd say getting married isn't a good idea.

Usually during the early dating time, each have on their 'company manners'. But as you learn to trust each other you begin to let your guard down.
Only by the day-to-day living with a person do you ever get to really know them. And even after that there will be times in your relationship you will look at the other person & wonder where the heck THAT idea or behavior came from.

It's the love & commitment to a relationship & marriage that makes it work. YOU have to decide if this is THE ONE.

Answer 4

My fiance and I have been together a little over two years and we are getting married this April. We knew when we first got together that we were it for each other. Only you two know if this is right for you.
My fiance and I sat down and wrote down all the reasons we should get married, realistic reasons and some funny ones, Like "I knew I wanted to marry you because when I wake up in the morning I don't think, "what's he still doing here."
I know in my heart that we will live for each other for the rest of our lives together and at the end of the day, that's all I need to know.

Answer 5

if you feel uneasy or you have any problems that need to be straightened out do so before getting married and if that means waiting a bit longer before getting married that that's what it takes. If you have too much baggage now it'll only get worst once you are married and then you have another hard road to walk down because its not simply "It's not working I'm leaving" its a divorce and a lot of heart ache and wasted money (weddings do cost a good chunk of money and so do divorces!!)

Answer 6

Only you can determine if it's too soon. Seems like you have a man who's devoted and wants to make a committment to you. Are you ready to make that committment to him? If not, it's too soon. Personally, if you're questionning yourself, I think you're not ready or this guy isn't the one for you. If you wanted to marry him, you would know the time is right. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years also and if he proposed tomorrow there is no question in my mind that I would say yes. He's the man I want to spend my life with. If you question that with your guy, then maybe he's not the one.

Answer 7

How well do you know him? Are you living with him? Do you know how he reacts under pressure? These are the type of things that lets you know how the person really is. You can notice a lot of red flags if you pay attention. Also analyze what type of relationship did you have with him up until now (rocky, etc.)? Two years is quite a lot of time if you spend a lot of time with him. However, if you don't feel comfortable to move to the next chapter of the book then I would suggest to wait. He'll understand if he really wants to be with you. Good luck with everything :)

Answer 8

If you both feel ready to get married then do it. I don't believe that there is a certain amount of time requirements, while I wouldnt get married in less then at least a year or two of knowing someone (ive never been married) only can determine if it is the right time.

Answer 9

Its not to soon unless you feel like it is too soon. its really up to you.....do you have doubts about it? I mean about him, and about if the relationship is ready- if you think maybe you have doubts about either DONT DO IT! You have time, you don't have to stop dating if you decide to wait, but You need to do some soul searching and see if this is something you are comfortable with. The fact that your questioning us about it makes me think that you are unsure, so maybe thats your answer. Listen to your heart, but also your head....If both say yes, then yes, but if anything says no, then I say wait. Good luck with it!

Answer 10

Just asking the question seems to indicate that you should wait. Two years in a reasonable amount of time. Cold feet is also natural. You have to decide if this is just a normal case of cold feet or if you have doubts serious enough to postpone the wedding.