i've been with this guy for almost a year i just found out that he has been lieing to me about alot of things smoking and when we make plans he breaks them and lots of other things. really l like him but im tired of being played like a dog. should i leave him alone or stick around. he told me that he would change what should i do.....
2007-01-12 02:58:35 · 16 answers · asked by cookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, he's not gonna change. they never do. i mean think about how old he is. You really cant teach old dogs new tricks. Leave him and stop wasting time life is to short to bullshtn. find a nice guy that will take you out and make you happy.
2007-01-12 03:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might be hard to accept, but if he really, I mean "really" wanted to be with you and make you happy the way a relationship should be then he couldn't have kept a lie for a year. He wouldn't be breaking plans except with other people so he could do things with you. I know love can make us blind sometimes and make us give people those "extra chances" that they really haven't earned, but I suppose what matters is whether or not you think you'd be happier in the long run without him. You can give him sometime to flip things around, but I'd let him go. If he really wants to be with you, he'll make those changes and come back begging.
2007-01-12 11:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Seg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur and idiot hes basically treating u like ****, oh yeah and not trying to be mean hes probably cheating on u. So leave trust me he's not the only boy out there and u will forget about him trust me been there done that. Your young trust me hes most likely not gonna be the one u marry so let him go. If he lies to u about smoking trust me he will lie about anything even though that is a petty lie why lie about it. Move on.
2007-01-12 11:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by lizzalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned (and it's always been true) that if someone will lie to you, 9 times out of 10 they will steal from you. If you can't get him to stop telling lies, personally I wouldn't even try to keep him. He's not worth it, no guy is that lies unless it's a cute little lie like at Christmas time type lie.
2007-01-12 11:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babes, if you really love this person, give him a chance to change. limit the change to a time limit- 1 mth, 6mths or whatever you are comfortable with. so if you say 1mth and the changes are not made, leave.
everyone deserves a fair and second chance but after that the choice is yours.
once is a mistake, twice is a habit.
talk about what you want changed, if he agrees fine, if he doesn't see if you can find a compromise.
don't settle for less than complete honest- this will affect trust and dependability in the relationship and will cause serious probs later on.
2007-01-12 11:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LEAVE HIM!! he aint the only man out there and by the sounds of it he aint no man and he aint ready for a relationship!! You cando so0o0 much better, ive been in this position before and it just got worse and all i heard the whole relationship was "I'll change, dont leave me.. blah blah blah"... TRUST ME.. LEAVE HIM!! Get with a next man and the man your with now will then realize what he's missed.
2007-01-12 11:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by West-Lnds-Finest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are better than that, i dont know you, but as a female you dont deserve to wait around on someone else to grow up. You do not have to put up with his lies, because believe me if he is lying to you now and you cant trust him, then it will continue through out the relationship. You never know what you have until its gone, make him feel that way. good luck
2007-01-12 11:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by TE TE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gurl sorry to say you won find a guy who has always told the truth to is girlfriend they all lie just some more then others.
2007-01-12 11:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by cm_crazy13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u've been together for almost a year now, all i'll say is dont leave him, stay by him but one thing is that u should make him understand u hate lies.
am saying this frm experence.... i use to lie to my bf then, my reason is jsut because i love him so much and i wouldnt want him to feel said about somtins sometimes, that why i lied ... he talked to me about this, he made me feel he hate it so much wit a passion that i had to stop it and fast..
he might have his reasons....
babie... u like him as u said talk to him and be fine....
nice one darling...
2007-01-12 11:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by btreach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went thru the same thing and i dumped him after a year. It was one of the hardest things i did, because i loved him and still do. so give him some more time, then kick his sorry @ss to the curb if he doesn't straighten the fu$% up!!!
2007-01-12 11:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋