Does it ever get better, and what has anyone done to get there? Need help, cause I'm clueless as to how to make things better.
2007-01-12 02:57:52 · 11 answers · asked by Clementine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A relationship is difantly over when the two of you disrespect each other and put your hands on the other person, that is when a relationship is over, and enough is enough when you verbal fighting.
2007-01-12 03:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by TE TE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've already reached the "enough" point. Heed your inner council and face the fact that the only one you can change or control is yourself. If you're not willing to stop the arguments at the onset, that is, refuse to go on past the original remark that angered you enough to reply and thus keep the fire going, then it won't get any better. Continuous anger bouts are scaring to the psyche.
Do yourself a favor and get out of the relationship or have the courage to refuse to answer back in anger.
The only other thing you can do is try to talk to the other person and say you're tired of the arguing and you'd like to stop before you become enemies, and he might then realize you are serious about leaving. HOWEVER, an argumentative person thrives on the verbal combat. I know...I'm married to one (more than 40 years). The argument will go on and on, but can't continue without fuel for the fire, so I walk away or change the subject. But he still argues, even with the TV. I read or get on the computer. These are referenced to help you find a way to live with the arguments while ignoring them and saving your nerves/sanity.
2007-01-12 03:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by TexasStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much anger built up in a relationship can hurt it. It's all about Constructive Communication. Try respecting each other then talking about the things that need to be talked about. A good way to do this is go somewhere OUTSIDE of both of you comfort zones to talk. If you try talking in the living room where you are comfortable and it's private, things can get out of hand easily. Try going to a restaurant or some public place, where verbally abusing each other will be frowned upon buy out siders. At that point TRUE communication will begin and don't leave until things are resolved. It worked for me!
2007-01-12 03:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's enough when your emotional and physical well being or those of any children involved are at risk. I was in a bad relationship and it continued to escalate it ended in divorce.
My current husband and i went through a bad spell, we lost a child, he was military and gone a lot, we had issues with the ex's and it built and built until we fought all the time. We took time to remove extra stresses and just kept communication open and it has improved greatly.
So depending on the situation do what is best for both of you whether that is working it out or ending it.
2007-01-12 03:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With relationships fighting can become a bad habit, that is hard to break.
Comminication and talking is the only remedy.
when expressing your views dont get excited or raise your voice, this only makes the other person jump to the defense.
So be a good listener of the other, and calmy work it out.
If not it will fester into a big fat blowout i which u both may truly say things that are regretted.
2007-01-12 03:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Purple Haze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously it is enough when you have to ask us..no it usually does not get better if they are abusive in any way. the only way he will be sorry is when you leave him...but dont go back because then it will start all over again. if you are scared to leave him have a friend or family member go with you or call the police to get escorted out..dont put up with it..you are better than that
2007-01-12 03:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of you needs to let it go...don"t try to be THE MAN. Even if you right, just play like you not, be smart. Man hate to be told that they are wrong. So if you want to keep this relationship just play cool. Man do what they want anyway.
2007-01-12 03:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ionescu M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can see why the other people take their stand on thing, and either change them or adapt to them, it'll get better. Other wise it'll be 40 years of hell, iff you marry them.
2007-01-12 03:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by my alias 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of you has to be rational. Obiously both of you have a temper or likes to argue. Try different methods of getign your point across.
2007-01-12 03:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tellina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think for urself whether there is anything left in the relationship. u can then decide on ur own
2007-01-12 03:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Abhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋