Your friends and family pick at all the bad things about your ex. Or does it help keep your chin up when they start the cliche "you can do so much better " ? I know that sh*t ain't working for me.
2007-01-12 02:57:51 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, they are indirectly saying you made a poor choice. Second, they are walking on dangerous ground. Not that you are, but if you were to get back with him they have now said all these horrible things about the man you are with.....happens all the time.
2007-01-12 03:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by KB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends in how you feel about your ex. Sometimes it can help, because we need to hear that we are going to be OK, that we will find someone who will stick around, and won't go. Some other times you just want to close your eyes and pretend it has never happen... that is not you who is suffering, and having someone being talking about it all the time doesn't help. We have to understand, that our family and friends say things to make us feel better and we should appreciate the effort and the intention.
Hang in there!
=^-^=
2007-01-12 11:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Damn Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it bothers me. But what bothers me the most is that they complain about my situation and they situation is not much better. So I really dont have much contact with them and I do so much better that way. But dont get me wrong cause I know family is one of the most important things, but if it ain't working, it just ain't working.
2007-01-12 11:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jayhe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does. since i always see the good side of the person first. but i also see that they are just trying to help me to get over the break. and i do appreciate their concern. but they failed to realize that i'd invested my feeling toward my ex and any il-feeling toward my ex, is some what indirectly insulting me. your friends and your family don't see things the way you do; but you have to understand where they're coming from.
2007-01-12 11:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if they are trying to better you or piss you off. Sometimes you have to over look things family say to you.
2007-01-12 11:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by blackbrowncandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they constantly remind you of your mistaken relationship, it is a way of constantly pointing out your weaknesses, not his. I would tell them that they can stop reminding you, you have learned your lesson and to let the matter drop.
2007-01-12 11:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every insult against him is an insult against your taste in men, and your wisdom and maturity in picking a partner. I'd tell them to let it go...
2007-01-12 11:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r right... sometimes it hurts and also it doesnt encourage much...
the solution will be to ignore unless u really did a mistake intentionally...
think urself what's gd for u and what u can do to become better
2007-01-12 11:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not make you feel better right away, but they are just trying to help you get over him.
2007-01-12 11:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't care what they say but if the person is really nice to me after we break up then I stick up for them.
2007-01-12 11:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by i_love_rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋