2007-01-12 02:48:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Question: Did he know about the child or did he recently find out about it?
If he recently find out about it, you shouldn't care because you have nothing to do with what happened before you got together.
If he did know, you have a liar on your hands and it is up to you to decide if you want to be bothered with him at this point.
I can't stand liars.
2007-01-12 02:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Vernita B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?! Ouch! Sorry to hear that you're going through that! On to the advice... if I were you, I would leave him. I know that sounds harsh, but TRUST me, it'll be for the best. Main reason being that if he hid something so MAJOR for two whole years, I'm sure at some point he's lied about it, or other things. You don't want to be with someone that will lie to you and keep secrets. You want someone who is honest, who wants to include you in everything, and who is willing to go through the rough/challenging times as well as the good. Ask yourself why he didn't tell you. Do you think he's not over his ex (child's mother)? No matter what excuses he gives you, there's no reason to not tell you- especially after so long of being together! When you confront him and he gets defensive or starts making excuses, he's not a man. Even if he owns up to it and apologizes, it's too late. A real man wouldn't have kept something like that from you. His loss. He obviously doesn't value your relationship or opinions, so I wouldn't bother wasting any more time with someone like that. I'm sure that will be hard to do, but when you find someone better, you will realize what you've been putting up with, and wonder why you put up with it at all, or at least for so long!
2007-01-12 03:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2HelpYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a liar! Do you want to be with a liar? What else has he lied to you about that you will find our two years from now? I'll bet that this is not the only lie he has told. Why would he lie to you for 2 years? I would move on in a heart beat and never look back.
2007-01-12 02:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesn't trust you or the kid isn't important enough to him for him to bother telling you about. Either way, are either of these options something that you want to deal with on a daily basis. You've put in a lot of time on this one but I don't think it's worth it. Either he's heartless or untrustworthy. Maybe both. Ditch him.
2007-01-12 03:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i'd want to ask him why he kept it a secret from you for so long. But on the other hand you can see his reasons. Maybe he wanted to be absolutely sure you meant a lot to him and he loved you to want to involve his child in your life.
When you have a child you want the best for them and bringing bf's and gf's in and out of his life will only confuse his kid.
I'd be upset but i'd take it as a huge compliment that he think so much of you now and trusts you a lot to introduce his child to you.
Hope it all goes well. x
2007-01-12 02:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daaaamn. I think if you Love him. Then you will have to deal with his kid. But.. I think you should talk to him about him not telling you. Don't right off the bat go and yell at him, because I'm sure it was VERY hard for him to tell you that he has a kid. I mean.. Duh... It took him 2 years to tell you. I think you should just sit down and talk to him about it. He might have a very good reason. Maybe not, but if you truely Love him.. then it will all work out.
Goodluck hun.
Jess!
2007-01-12 02:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're better of with someone else. If you have a child you dont keep that a secret from your girlfriend of 2 yrs. Its best that you leave him now cause if he wasn't honest about this he wont be honest about anything else. And you dont want someone like that in your life you can do a whole lot better... Good Luck..
2007-01-12 03:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by NENA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if he had the kid before yall got together. And if it was before you and him got together forgive him because he must really love you because he was afraid you would leave him because of his past. Everyone messes up sometime...and remeber it only takes one time to get someone pregnant. And meeting the kid would be good.
2007-01-12 03:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit the road Jake....if he can leave something as major as ac hildren from you , what else is he keeping from you. He is not trust worthy, a child is a major part of a parents life and to never mention it to you is insane, he is not right!
2007-01-12 02:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by swtpjgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If you don't know he has a kid that means he must not spend much time with that kid or care about it much. That's not good quality for someone you want to be with to have.
2007-01-12 02:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle118 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋