I hear from my male-friends 24-7, about being submissive ...saying thats what men want. But Im clueless on how to. And YES... I want to know how to. Ive been DOM all my life. For this 1 guy, I want to submit to him in every way (not just sexually), just clueless on how to. Be serious with your answers.
2007-01-12 02:42:00 · 22 answers · asked by too_hot4words 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Roll over and expose your stomach while averting your gaze. It means you will do as your told by your master without question and hesitation. You also anticipate your masters needs and wants and attempt to provide them. It is difficult for most of us to do.
The proper human female submissive pose is naked, kneeling, legs spread hands grasped together behind back or palms up on thighs and eyes down.
2007-01-12 02:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being submissive or Dominant is as much a part of your personality than anything else. It's not really something that can be learned, per se. If you have a submissive side, then it will come out after you've tried being on the bottom a bit, but you'll be setting your Dominant side away for a while when you do. Dominance and submission cannot exist in the same person at the same time, and there is no "switch" to go back and forth between them as you wish. If you are naturally Dominant, then you'll likely find it difficult for you to let go of that control, and will find that it doesn't satisfy you to relinquish it.
On a side note, not all men want submission, and a great many will love you for being Dominant. Don't try to change who you are as a person until you know it's what you want. Try talking to this guy to ask what HE wants from the relationship, rather than trusting your "male friends."
2007-01-12 13:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by baka_otaku30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, either you are interested in being submissive or you aren't. I don't want to give you bad advice or offend the yahoo censors, but here's my opinion:
Do you think it would be exciting to be told by your man to strip naked and lie across his lap? Even if he were dressed?
Do you think you would be excited if he lightly caressed you, possibly even spanked you while you were in such a position?
Would it excite you to give up control to him and let him explore your body while you were possibly tied up?
Things of that nature. My ex was really into such things. Basically, you have to be interested in being passive and giving up control to your partner.
As for being "submissive" in a relationship, that's also a personal preference. Do you want to act like a servant? Would it be rewarding for you to care for this man's every need?
If none of this sounds appealing to you in any way, you shouldn't do it. If you are a dom or simply a moderate personality, and being servile or submissive is uninteresting or even offensive to you, that's perfectly normal.
I, for example, can be either/or for certain women. Some women actually bring out a dom side in me, others a sub side. Some inspire both, and some inspire neither.
I could go into more detail on any aspect of this response, but we are dealing with yahoo censors...
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2007-01-12 02:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by askthepizzaguy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The way you become submissive it to put his feelings above your own. It doesn't mean that you let him walk all over you. In a relationship you are suppose to be a help, a compliment to your partner. So you try to find ways to make life easier for him and to show him that you respect him. It's called Godly love. When you love someone else more than yourself.
2007-01-12 02:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Texas Pineknot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being submissive is easy, you live for your man, you do everything there is to do for him, give him everything he needs, be at his beck and call. Basically you will be his wife, maid, mistress, mother, and daughter.
I understand where you are coming from I tried this once before, but my advise is if you have to try then you are taking yourself out of character. Don't lose yourself in the process. Good luck1
2007-01-12 02:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Tellina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being submissive means you accept his command of the relationship. Try saying yes, sir every once in a while. Try accepting his ideas, rather than pushing your own. When he wants to go to dinner, ask where he wants to go. When he wants to watch tv, watch it with him.
Above all, keep in mind that being submissive does not give him permission to be abusive. A man is to protect his woman. To keep her, and to help her along life's path. For one love, many sacrifices Man will make. For the one love that supports and loves Man, all sacrifices, he will make.
2007-01-12 02:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Moe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been DOM, seems like you may have a problem bein SUB, but if you are willing to try it, it's just the total opposite of what you are used to, good luck and have fun!
2007-01-12 03:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't want to completely submit to a guy even if he is your husband. because then you are not allowed to think for yourself. you are your own person. submitting is like sacrificing your wants and needs to provide the needs of the other. mostly you would be doing whatever he wants, no objections. you would have no ground to stand on if you feel that there is a issue in the relationship and if anything is wrong, he more than likely will make it you fault even if it truly is his.
2007-01-12 02:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I kind of wonder about this topic. I am an incharge kind of woman but would, just once, like to not be. I make the decisions for almost everything, from work to my daughter to my boyfriend. Normally, my friends defer to whatever I want to do. Its like I am th only person who knows what they want. But just once I would like to not do things my way.
Thanks for asking the question.
I'll wait for answers because I dont have a good one for youand good luck.
2007-01-12 02:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Submissive is being agreeable to do whatever they want. Not just sexually but where to go out, what movie to see, where to eat; etc. Basically giving in to them all the time.
Which isn't very good. I believe in compromise but not to the point of it costing too much. (doing things you don't like to do)
(or loosing yourself)
2007-01-12 02:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋