How do I deal with my aunt's sudden death from cancer?

Question

I still find it very difficult to accept that she's gone forever.

Answer 1

talk to u'r friends and family, honestly sitting infront of u'r computer is not the best thing to do right now. Cancer is very much among us now, we have to accept it and pray that she rests in peace

Answer 2

I lost my Godmother last year to cancer. Saying goodbye to her was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. To this day, there isn't a day that passes by that I don't wish her to be near to me. I've come to accept that nothing will bring her back. As for getting over the sadness...

I'm a buddhist and my beliefs help me to cope.
I find myself talking to her as if she was still here. I meditate on the though of her and how she lived a fantastic life.
I think to myself that she has moved on and one day I may be rejoined with her loving soul again.

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Losing someone you love dearly to cancer is the absolute worse.

Some may say going to see a shrink helps but I find that I don't need someone else to walk me through the steps to release the emotional pain.
Know that you are a strong person and depending on your beliefs, that your Aunt is in a better place and one day you may see her again.
Family support is always great, and friends can never understand fully. But out of all it's my spouse that has been there for me every second of the way.

I wish you all the best in your recovery, it may help you to dedicate some life goals in her name. Let her spirit be your support through life and you will find that the days become much easier.

Answer 3

I'm sorry about her death.

My mother in law died of cancer April of 2005. It was the hardest time of my life. My husband was overwhelmed. My father in law is still at a loss without her. It is very very difficult to accept that someone you love is gone. The only thing that you can do, is live for her. Never take your life for granted. Always remember the things she enjoyed and the things you may have shared together. It is going to be quite painful for a while. You can not stop the pain. You can only work through it. Take up a hobby to help distract you from the loneliness you may feel. Pray for God to ease your pain.

God bless and best wishes.

Answer 4

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. You must of Loved your Aunt very much. My best friend died of Cancer two months ago & I'm still not over her...It was really hard during the holidays.But we talked about her a lot. The things that made her smile etc...And we got a snowflake frame & put her photo in it so she could spend Christmas with us. I lost both my Mom & Dad to Cancer also,so I'm no stranger to the desiase.But no mater how many die : we still have a hard time getting through it. Try and keep your friends & family close to you. Share hugs & thoughts.Cry if you have to, it's a good reliese.Take Care Now...She Is Still With You In Your Heart...God Bless...

Answer 5

We all deal with the death of a loved one in our own way and in our own time. What works for some will not work for others. It took me almost five years to accept the death of my mother, don't rush it, you can't anyway. Accept that you are going thru a grief process and understand that you will do so at your own discretion.

Answer 6

Time will help your pain. You said her death was sudden from cancer. Did she not know or tell anyone that she had the disease?

Answer 7

i lost 2 close friends to cancer (breast cancer 8/05 & stomach cancer 04/06) and i still think of them often. i can't believe they are gone. cancer is very hard thing to deal with.. you just need to keep yourself busy as much as possible.