How should I further pursue this girl?

Question

Took this girl out a couple months ago. Date was shaky but had some fun and she told me to call her sometime. I did three times the following week she never answered only texted sorry ive been busy with school. I havent talked to her since then but ran into her last week, talked and we went out again last night. She is the kind of girl that likes to have all the power over guys have her way is gorgeous and she knows it. The first date was bad because i think i was too nice and wasnt a challenge for her. Last night i teased her, joked with her and let her know that she wont get her way with me. She loved it and we had a lot of fun and she even mentioned doing other stuff sometime, but not any details because of course she wants to be in control and have me persue her. I didnt kiss her but on the ride home i told her to call me this time, she laughed and said i dont call boys with a wink. I doubt she will call me, how long should i wait to call her? How can i twist the game around?

Before people say i shouldnt waste my time with her, she seems to be worth it. Although she plays games and can get a lot of guys, she does have a lot to offer and she is loyal to boyfriends. I just need some advice on how to get her to persue me, she is very stubborn so will she ever change her ways or do i need to give up power to get her? Any advice on getting powerful girls to listen to ME would be great.

Answer 1

i think you should ignore her. if she wants you she'll come running after you. she just wants you to play her little game and your falling right for it. i bet more than anything, most of her ex boyfriends she persued herself and not the other way around. because if its too easy then she probably doesn't want it. which is why your in the predicament your in.

Answer 2

People tend to chase something they want, even if it is different than their character.

My guess would be, she isn't looking for a guy that will answer to her every whim, some one to challenge her a bit, keep her on her toes. If you go out on another date, you might try taking control, making her curious where you are going. Ask her what time to pick her up, and let her know the right level of dress style for the date, and that's all you tell her. Have everything planned out ahead of time, but be creative, don't make it a cookie-cutter date, it's got to be something interesting, out of the ordinary....a surprise.

Always open the door for her, (not because she expects you to) but because it is the right thing to do.
Confidence is the key. If you are confident (not cocky) people will wonder what you know.

Answer 3

Play the game that she is playing. Nothing is wrong with that. Call her this once and if she doesn't answer her phone just leave a nice friendly message. The next move is on her. If she does answer then invite her out but don't give her any details on what you are planning to take her or to do. Keep everything as a big mystery. That will keep her on her toes and interested.

Answer 4

shes good, a woman after my own heart! take a day or two to call her, leave her in suspence. i know if a guy acts too needy with me its a huge turnoff. then when you call don't sound super eager to out with her, just say so when are we going out next, thats leaving the ball in her court. if she says "you tell me" or "i don't know" then say ok well i will pick you up at (whatever time you decide) and then don't take no for an answer. unless she does get mad and then she really does not want to go and you need to let it go cause it can turn on you. otherwise its all about when to make a move and when not to and it can be tireing so you have to keep on toes with girls like us. we are loyal but you have to keep our attention so be stubborn too and learn how to move!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 5

You really want to get her? Be the one guy that she can't have. Seriously. Date someone else in front of her; it will drive her nuts.

With that being said, though, my best friend is one of "those girls" and spends most of her time making fun of the guys that are nice to her. You sound great, and can do way better. Believe it or not, there are girls out there who are pretty AND kind.

Answer 6

Lets see don't call her wait for her to call you she did wink when she said i don't call boys. Don't be at her beck and call. If you run into her again just let her ask you out don't pursue her let her pursue you. If she likes you she will . This way you have more of the control. She sounds like she likes a challenge and if your to easy then your not a challenge to her.

Answer 7

You need to get the power back. Leave her little notes in places where she'll find them. Criptic ones that will get her really intrigued/frustrated. Riddles likes 'My first is in...etc'. And mate, you really need to show her you don't care whether she calls or not. Girls really dig this. I mean if she doesn't get back to you after a number of weeks and goes with someone else, she obviously doesn't like you enough. Have enough confidence in yourself as a commodity - if she can't see your strengths then she misses out!

Answer 8

Let her hang for a while...don't call... I think she will call...when she gets nervous...I would maybe wait a week...if she does like you and wants you to be in charge...she doesn't want you to seem needy...

relax and let it play out...sounds like fun at least.

Answer 9

dude i went through this with my girlfriend. we met in a chat room. and she called me first and we hit it off so well that after 2 dates (football game was our first date and the day we met each other in person and movies) in less than a week i asked her to be my girl. I say call her and tell her that you want to make her your girlfriend and see what she says.

Answer 10

If she really likes you she is probably just checking to make sure you are really worth it. Give her a little bit, just enough to wet her appetite. Then stand back and see if she is willing to pursue you as well.