My girlfriend will get mad at everything I do. If I pull into work at the same time as a co-worker she thinks something of it. She gets mad if I talk to girls at work (which is all i work with, so im silent 8 hours a day). I forgot my cell phone at work the other day and had to go back and get it. She questioned how i forgot it, and when i start to get annoyed about being accused of cheating she tells me im trying to fight and tells me im worthless, and she hates me and everything else. I cheated on her when i was 17, we took a 2 year break and got back together im now 21- going on 22. I want us to work, but her jealousy is killing us. We are so perfect when its good, but this jealous stuff i can't take anymore. What do i do?
2007-01-12 02:14:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard to continue a relationship once someone has cheated. She probably has forgiven you, but it's hard to not wonder if and when will you do it again. I'm not sure about her self esteem, but she may feel like she will never be enough for you because she wasn't before. You cheated for a reason. Have you two discuss what occurred? Why you cheated? It may be painful for both of you, but it needs to be discussed. Even though you were the one who betrayed the relationship, you have to ask yourself is trying to continue this worth it. By that I mean, Is it worth trying to continue a relationship with someone who may never completely trust you again? Maybe both of you deserve a fresh start........ You made a mistake and the consequences may very well be that there is no turning back, that you must move forward.
2007-01-12 02:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I have learnt, and its really quite sad but true is that second goes at a relationship rarely work because if it didnt work the first time there is a good reason for it. Also trust is very hard to get back once its been lost,so its understandable that your girlfriend behaves the way she does, but she did take you back which means she had to of been willing to let the past go. So you need to tell her that the past cant be undone but you lovce her and she obvoisly loves you since you are back together two years later, but that if she doesnt trust you it will never work,tell her you understand that it takes time for trust to be earned back but that you want to be with her, ask her what she would like for you to do within reason of course, to reassure her. I think it can work baby steps and alot of communication. hope it works out.
2007-01-12 10:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive just found out ive been cheated on by my bf, before i found out what was going on i behaved a lot like your gf is behaving now. girls act like this when they've been cheated on or whn they think sumthings up! think about it like this, she doent act like that because she wants to,when u've been hurt like that, no matter how long ago, she will always have that little worry in the back of her mind. She obviously wants it to work too otherwise she wouldnt be back with you. be patient with her,getting uptight with her makes her think that ur hiding things. remember, u cheated on her, she got hurt, just because the situation's over for you doesnt mean shes not still hurt about it.
2007-01-12 10:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bubz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel let her know that her constant jealousy is irritating and if she doesn't calm down it could be the cause of the end of your relationship let her know you want to be with her and you want the relationship to work but it can't be one sided see what she says and if you guys can't learn to see eye to eye then maybe its time to end things Best of Luck ;-)
2007-01-12 10:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in relationships is a must, without it, there is no relationship. What do you want out of this relationship? Confronting the issue? Being honest with yourself and the friend.
Time to let it go?
2007-01-12 10:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is based on trust amongst other things... if ye dont have trust it wont work... you can fight it for years.. but dont wait too long, your wasteing hers and your time.. a relationship needs trust to survive!!! its like bread and butter ... the just go together!!
2007-01-12 10:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by lollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her to ease down on the jealousy if she doesn't then break up with her if you don't do it now it could end up VERY badly later on.
2007-01-12 10:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy never goes away it`s always there and if thats her nature then thats her nature,can you live with it?
2007-01-12 10:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Erin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just a weird insecure girl thing just continue to show her you care then maybe she'll calm down
2007-01-12 10:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~Holls~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME TO MOVE ON
2007-01-12 10:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋