I love him...do i tell him?

Question

i thought it was just an infatuation. a passing flirtation that i would eventually get over. but it's been a year :( i've grown to care for him. i just realized this recently. we've been very good friends. we've admitted to each other that we like each other. we've kissed. but we can't be together because he has a girlfriend so we decided to stay friends. but we still talk often. we enjoy being with each other. but it's just friendship. there were occassional flirtations... but recently, we became distant and i'm not sure why. i'm starting to really like him so i stopped talking to him so i'll know how he really feels. but he stopped talking to me too :( he'll text only when i text him. but when we do talk, it's just like before. now i miss him... what do i do?

Answer 1

don't be afraid to wait i had to wait 2 years b4 i dated a guy...and i KNEW i loved him beyond a shadow of a dought...so please don't rush things and stay friends and get to know him so well that you to won't be able to hide anything from each other...trust me it's the best way to go...i know i've been there done that...hope i helped you out some....if you need to talk more email me i'm good at listening....see ya around

Answer 2

You are in a complicated situation where of course whatever I am going to say below might contradict a situation or be biased. I would be a messed up person if i tell you "Yea, go ahead and tell him how you feel. Break up his relationship or whatever he have build with his girlfriend! Take care of your own, because aint nobody going to do it for you. If you love him- fight for him." After sayin all that place your self in a position of his girlfriend and daymn sure him because maybe he do want to be with her.
I know they say dont think of anyone esle, or what other people think, just as long as this will make you happy go for it. Yea you can look at it in that perspective but then again people usually dont build happiness off someones unhappiness. So the only smart thing you can do is stop bothering him. I dont want to sound harsh but if he knew how you feel towards him he possibly would of done something about it, but keeping a distance from you, which was his choice, is basically him saying no to temptation. I mean if you see he dont text you at all unless you text him is because he might have feelings for you and his girlfriend and at the moment she is priority over you because he is with her and he dont want to get you attached to him because most likely he noticed that you did, etc.He just afraid to make that decision where he leave his girlfriend over something that might not last or stay stable. Feel me?

But cheer up girl! Maybe you should go out and have a drink and fun and maybe you will find some secret admirers breathing in your neck like a drooling dog. ;)

Also i believe in a whole destiny thing. If it is meant for you to be together you and your love might end up being together, so I say leave this up to God and his will.

Answer 3

Well, thats nothing u can do but to leave it to natural cause. From yr question he don't seems to be very interested except for casual flirt which mostly guys won't reject. U should learn to be smart as this kind of relationship doesn't last. If he like u , he'll definitely response to u but if he don't even if u beg him, he wouldn't even barge! Got the idea?

Answer 4

Don't tell him if you decided to just be friends then just be that.. obviously he doesn't want to talk to you since you are the one that has to text him or what not I think you should move on and you will find someone that loves you the same way that you love them.

Answer 5

Have you told him how u really feel? Just tell him and if he doesnt feel the same way for you, maybe u were not ment to be together, I was told listen to ur heart and brain if they agree with him, u might have found a match.

Answer 6

you need to tell him because it is obviously eating you up inside. you don't want to go on wondering "what if". tell him and how he decides to take it is on him. it has nothing to do with you. he may have put this distance between the two of you because he may be feeling guilty about have feelings for you while he is with someone else or his feelings may have developed into love and he really doesnt know what to do. tell him, talk about it, and go on from there. but please don't pressure him into leaving his gf for you because that would only put more strain between the two of you and you could risk loosing him altogether.

Answer 7

Your best move is to go ahead and tell him:

If he loves you too, maybe you stand a chance. If he doesn't and he's really your friend, then he'll stay your friend and respect your feelings. You never know he loves you too but didn't know you did and he moved on.

Answer 8

all i could say is that umm....you should tell him how u feel and that you want to be more then friend and if he kiss you then has something for you. and i feel bad for the girl that is his gf cuz u kiss him...i know i kiss my best friend bf the night he ask her out i know kinda of mean but o well....you just need to tell him how u feel and that you want to be more then friends there's nothing more to say good luck

Answer 9

Really this sounds like a "let it go" situation. If it is meant to be the timing will be right in the future...it just isn't right now.

Answer 10

to be honest,if he is starting to feel the "burn" for you,but intends to stay with his girlfriend,the not having contact with you is the only honorable thing for him to do.if he wants to be with you,he needs to break up with his current and cut off contact with her...so he doesn't get the "burn" for her again.it seems cold,but wouldn't you want the man to secure his loyalty to you by making sure he's not tempted by another?
tell him if you like,but make sure that you understand the consequences of the actions you may be taking....