Problems in a small town with the school?

Question

My child goes to a small school in a small town and i got her teacher in trobule for her method of grading and teaching and now when we go to the school and say hello to the other teachers they act as though they do no hear us or will not let my child out of the car when we pull up to let the children out she has to do it herself. And i have spoken to the principal and he says they do not have to say good morning and they only have to let the children that need help out of the car. Any suggestions?

I would like to say the teacher got caught giving my child F's when she was really passing. As far as the car door my daughter is six we have the type of van door that will seriously hurt her fingers if she opens it the wrong way. They let all the kids out it is the school policy and i am 7 months pregant it will hold up traffic if i get out of the car to let her out myself.

Answer 1

You chose to do battle and now there are consequences to your actions. If you got the problem (grading and teaching) corrected, and the result is that the teachers don't say hello to you or open the car door for your child, so be it. That's not such a high price to pay.

Answer 2

Do I understand this correctly??? One of the things you are upset about is that the other teachers will not open the car door for your child?!?!? What are they, doormen? Now I do not know exactly what transpired here and what you felt was wrong with the original teacher and her method of grading and teaching. Perhaps you were justified in doing so, but like the other posts have said, you made a stand and there are consequences to that. Doing the "Right" thing usually does not go hand in hand with doing things the easy way. I can't say that I would blame the teachers for ignoring you or your child. It might not be the right thing for them to do, but look at it from their point of view. They have distrust of you over what you did to one of their co-workers. You have made your bed, now you must lay in it. Don't expect them to be nice to you. As others have said be the better person and continue to say "Hello" to them. As far as the car door issue, I see nothing wrong with your child letting herself out.

EDIT:
Well if you had proof that this teacher was failing your child when the child was actually passing, then you had reason for concern and justification to report the teacher. I cannot fault you there. I however still find it strange that a school has a policy of opening car doors for the children. They are not invalids and unless a child has some medical condition that makes them physically unable to open the door, let them open their own door. If your van has a door where your child can injure herself opening it than either you should obtain a different vehicle or teach her how to open the door so that she will not injure herself. Also you will receive no sympathy from me as far as you being pregnant. If you are unable to keep up with what you currently have, perhaps you should have not gotten pregnant in the first place.

Answer 3

I also live in a very small town and have one child in the school there and one that has graduated. There is no easy solution here. Really all you can do is be the bigger person. Keep on saying "hello" to the teachers and go ahead and let your child open the doors herself and just act like it doesn't bother you at all. This is a good chance to teach your child tolerance and kindness. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Get it? Eventually, this will go away and everything will be alright. Sorry that I didn't have an instant solution for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

when i 1st read your letter the mom in me wanted to tell you to do something very naughty but thank God for common sense taking over!:) my sis had a similar experience with her sons school. if you cant get any satisfaction or if you feel that the principal is not paying this enough attention then go to your school super.actually they dont have to help your kid or say hello but common decency would dictate that they should.but who knows common decency anymore. sounds like the teachers are pissy cause you got one of their own in a pickle. & thats just wrong of them to act that way. especially to a child. if we treat our kids bad then we get in trouble. but the school system in a small town is exceptionally hard to fight. my sis's town doesnt even have a red light so yeah its a small town.just try & hold your chin up & dont let it get you down.especislly in front of the child.remember this is actually all about her anyway. not you ,the teachers or any other higher ups.but if you cant get help there you can always try the teachers board of your state. i would say that is a bit extreme tho.try & get the principal or super to have a sit-down for you & the teacher(s) that are having the prob. that might just be the best bet.if he doesnt want to do this then i would go to the superintendant. good luck. remember its really all about the child.

Answer 5

I went to a small school and know how everyone there seems to know everything (even if it may not be the whole truth). If I were you, I would try to be extra nice to the teachers who are ignoring you. Not like buy them gifts or anything, but always say hi when you see them, ask them about something in their lives and act interested. Basically, be the bigger person and they will feel guilty for treating your daughter like they are. Good luck! And don't worry, eventually everyone will forget about this once something else of more interest happens.

Answer 6

Personally, I think that you need to start with the teacher you got in trouble. Did you try talking to him/her about their methods before getting them into trouble? Either way, it sounds like you found yourself a Queen B, so to speak. Someone who has either been around many years, or has gained much respect from their colleagues. Speak with them, whether you really want to or not, for your daughter's sake. Right now, she is being punished for something you did, right or wrong, and it probably won't stop soon. Talk with her teacher, explain why you did what you did and ask if you can start over. If it takes an apology, then so be it. This doesn't mean that you should let the teacher walk all over you, however, come to a common ground and start the relationship from this point on a different path. Good luck!

Answer 7

that really ticks me off! did you have any communication with the teacher before the incident with the grade switching - does this teacher have a problem with your family or something? I cant understand why a teacher would be so crude to a child!!! I would organize, I know with your pregnancy things can't be easy, but try to gather other parents around you and gain their support. Go to the school board, ask them why your child is being ostricized by the people who are to be her/his mentors. If no changes go to your state representatives office (I had to do all of that because my son was being treated unfairly because he was diagnosed with ADHD and I refused to put him on medication as was the norm for children in the school)... GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

i would act like nothing is wrong just do the right things . teach your child to be respectful and say good morning i would keep track of anything that may be out of line with them though. if there is a school board , then you can report to them. if this is a public school your tax dollars support this so you do have rights.

Answer 9

You own part of the educational system, by earning your hard earned taxes. "You pay taxes on the schools, look at our property statement it will say so. Anyhow, what I am saying take the next step. Write a written statement and write to your local Higher Education department. Perhaps after that they will straighten up very easily. Good luck. Stick to our guns.

Answer 10

well think that if the teacher did not teach them well u have to go to the principal himself and report because most people don't understand why u talk to them about their mode of teaching and all sort of things