shes a good mother its just that her inlaws are trying to tell her what to do supposedly out of "concern" for the baby. its not like she takes him out uncovered or anything. he is well dressed for the weather. this problem has grown into bigger situations. need help please!
2007-01-12 01:49:20 · 24 answers · asked by lori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So long as a baby is properly dressed, the child can be taken outside. No problem.
Mommy needs to tell the In-Laws to butt out (politely, of course).
2007-01-12 01:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this new Mother a child ? Was the baby just born ? If she needs to go out and the baby is well protected from the cold then I see no problem.
The in laws must be very careful not to interfer to much in the lives of this young couple. I
can tell you, I have 3 grown married sons and they are very protective of their wives and this little issue can escalate like you wouldn't believe. These in-laws could wind up out of the picture or this little family or the little family could be torn apart without a chance to begin.
I am speaking from experience. I have learned to keep my mouth shut, speak softly ,only when it is my business and not to be in their face about anything. We keep our distance more then we did and live by the saying that "what you don't know, don't hurt you.
Let them be. How would you like this role reversed. Good Luck !!! I hope my sharing has helped someone see the light before this issue gets any bigger.
Lets have a Happy New Year all together.~ Jill
2007-01-12 03:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older adults, with smug satisfaction, believe they are wiser about the care of a new baby than a young, first time mom. They may mean well, but mom doesn't have to take any advice unless she thinks it might be something she didn't consider and that makes sense to her.
If the baby is warm, the face protected from the wind, with a full belly, and the outdoor adventure is short, than there is absolutely NO reason the baby can't be taken out in the cold. A little fresh air is good always.
No wonder new mom's suffer depression after the baby is born...all that "good", unasked for advice, from elders who make no move to hide their lack of faith in mom. All those screams she has to swallow would depress any of us. Geeze. Tell her she's doing what she was meant to do. I recommend listening to the advice, smiling, taking what she wants, and ignoring the rest.
2007-01-12 02:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by metaphysical_kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she is not a bad mother.You can take a baby out in any weather as long as the baby is appropriately dressed and covered.She need's to nicely tell her in-law's that she appreciates their concern but,that she know's what she is doing and she would never put her child at risk for anything.She need's to make it clear that she is the mother and that she appeciates their input but ultimately she has the final say in everything concerning the child.It's just that simple.
2007-01-12 02:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every young baby how is going into the cold weather, must have the proper clothing on, to insure a healthy and well cared for child. People have their own ideas of how a baby should be dressed. I have worked with parents for year, promoting good parenting skills and suggestions to keep your child healthy and doing what is best for the child. Neglect issues are serious and can be addressed. Even with the use of a third party, if you decided to confront a parent with your concerns.
2007-01-12 01:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provided that the baby is properly dressed for the weather, no she wouldn't be a bad mother. You would also have to take into consideration what types of weather the baby is used to. I was once told by a lady from CYFD in Louisianna that I could get in trouble for not having socks on my baby in the winter. Now it was 68 degrees in December in Louisianna but my baby was born and had lived in New Mexico where December weather was low 20 high 52. 68 degrees in December was warm for us, I was wearing shorts!
2007-01-12 04:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by christibearb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is not a bad parent if she has the baby warm and protected from the cold. The in-laws are just nosy and controlling. If anything, fresh air is good for babies and moms.
If it helps, talk to the pediatrician and get his/her green signal while the father is around as a "witness" and then thank the in-laws for their concern, let them know what the pediatrician said and then carry on your walks.
2007-01-12 01:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the baby is well covered than it can be taken out sometimes, that doesn't mean everyday tho. I would not make it a daily thing, but there's definitely no problem taking the baby out if he's all bundled up. People love to try to tell other people what to do with their children, she should pay them no mind
2007-01-12 02:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the child is adequaltely dressed I see no problem in taking a child out in the cold!! Young babies have lots of fat to help them keep warm so I don't see it as a problem. In fact it will probably help their body's to become used to cold weather, and thus will not be as sensitive to the cold when they grow up!!
2007-01-12 01:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In laws can destroy a marriage and a family if you allow them.Your friend should should set boundaries for these folks or they will drive her crazy and put a wedge in her marriage. I think she should say something like, "I realize you have concerns about your grandchild, but I the baby's mother and my husband and I will be making the decisions regarding our baby. I am sorry if you feel hurt but this is the way it will be."
2007-01-12 02:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋