He was talking to his ex and he knew that I did not like it. In the beginning I was like do you want to be with me and he was like I dont know I just need time. So I gave him time. Today he called and wants to do stuff and was like I want to be with you, you dont need to find any other guys. I was like whatever it doesnt matter we are not together. I said plus you have your ex to call. and he got really amd and was like I dont want her I want you!
I felt really bad for making him leave with no where to go but now I dont feel so bad. I hope he learned his lesson, but what should I do?
Let him come back or leave him be.........
2007-01-12 01:48:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think he has learned his lesson?
2007-01-12 01:49:37 · update #1
First of off, do you want to be with him? Do you love him enough to give him a second chance. If the answer is yes then I would start off slow. Don't let him move back in just yet. Let him earn your forgiveness. If he really did choose you, he will do whatever it takes to make you trust him again (or at least that's what he should be doing). And the minute he gets a phone call from his ex and starts up with that, is when you'll get your answer (well based on how he handles it). She may still call him, but if he tells her to leave him alone, then you know he's trying. He needs to put all focus on you and none on the ex. SO keep in mind, if you do take him back, that means no ex in the picture, then what is point of you leaving him to begin with.
2007-01-12 02:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What lesson would that be?
"Talking with an ex" is not always a prelude to a relationship reunion. There can be unresolved issues between the individuals that need to be worked out. And, believe it or not, some people actually become friends with their former boyfriends/girlfriends.
By throwing his ex into his face after he clearly stated that he wanted to spend time with you, you have let your jealousy get the better of you. He has stated that he wants to be with you and until he says or acts otherwise that's what you should believe.
What should you do? I think you should work on your jealousy issues first before getting back into dating.
2007-01-12 10:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by auken_hill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending you an email isn't working, it says the recipient's email hasn't been confirmed ! lol, I've got that book AND why men MARRY bitches too lol. The book is enlightening, but it's hard to put into practice. He's a very honest person to the point where he's untactful with it, so if he's second guessing this relationship, why wait till the week before I go see him?! bearing in mind, I haven't seen him for a month or two. i'll probs just have to wait a till he calls. xx
P.S> I think if he's showing you that he wants you and not her, then maybe let him move back in, but he's got to prove it to you, stress that you don't wanna play games and if he decides to contact his ex again, then he's out the door with no question. say it in a calm and assertive way, and he'll respect you for it, good luck with him.
2007-01-12 09:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like you need to take a break from each other. My fiance was doing that before we got married and I tried to let it go. We got married and it still went on for years. We finally got a divorce after 9 years of that. If you're going to be together, it'll happen. Time apart is a good thing and will help you clear your head. It takes two people working at it to make a relationship work.
2007-01-12 09:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him out....or you may find yourself being used if for no other reason a place to stay! You had good grounds to give him the boot but if he bring him back he wins in his mind anyway....he just knows now he will have to be more sneaky about things...
He is a ex for a reason!
2007-01-12 09:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me tell u from my own experience..if u let him come back he will still be talking w/ her. if u live by yourself then be by yourself. u don't need a guy to tell u who u can and can't talk to. because behind your back he will still talk to her. tell him u want to date other people as well as him he is not going to want to lose u,but u have got to show some tough love
2007-01-12 10:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ga's Peach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like trust issues and jealousy! My ex's new girlfriend does that...how stupid is she. Not to say that u r stupid but i live 2400 miles away from my ex and we both know its over!!If u trust him take him back if not find someone u can trust and one that doesn't talk to their ex!
2007-01-12 09:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by aml129918 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time for me to run away ! bye!
2007-01-12 09:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Catalyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋